I’m active in an organization that has critical goals that must be achieved by June 2019. We had a heated debate on whether to begin strategizing and implementing now, or wait until January. Many were advocating for January, reasoning that people were already moving into the holiday mindset and would be too busy. Yikes!
Having been a self-employed business woman for 15 years I was dismayed! Now is the absolute perfect time to develop your strategies for the New Year. Then, when January hits, the details have been firmed up and you’re ready to go full steam ahead.
Many of us are perplexed as to just how fast the Holidays are approaching. This year seemed to fly by! With the days getting shorter and the Winter Solstice less than 2 months away, it’s the perfect time for reflection, assessment, wrapping up of the old year, and gestating ideas for the New Year. This is the best time to review your accomplishments and begin setting your goals and objectives for next year.
Like most people, my holidays can get crazy! Yet taking time out to thoughtfully assess my successes, acknowledge my incompletes, discern what I can let go of, and determine what I want to accomplish in the New Year helps me end the year with a sense of satisfaction. It helps me stay grounded and focused during the whirlwind of activity and fun with family and friends. Then when the New Year arrives I can truly celebrate because I’ve already been gestating my goals and objectives. I know where I’m heading and what I need to do in the upcoming year.
I highly recommend this introspective practice of making your plans for the New Year. The benefits you reap will far outweigh the time it takes!
If you’re curious about the process, I’d love to share what was given to me by one of my mentors.
Reflect and Fantasize
First, find some quiet time where you do nothing but reflect and think. For me, the best time is during meditation. You might prefer a leisurely walk or sitting quietly with a latte at a coffee shop. Whatever works for you is great, but the idea is to set aside time to be alone with your thoughts.
Then reflect over your year and fantasize about what you’d like to accomplish next year. I’m reaching a point where, if something feels too hard, or too much work, I pass. Instead I let my mind float to those things that excite and enthuse me. I can tell when I start to feel energized because the juices start flowing. I can’t wait to sit down at my computer, or with pen and paper, and start jotting down my ideas! I bet this will happen to you also.
This is the “brain dump” stage. Don’t worry about the order or time frame. Sometimes you might get all your ideas down at once. Other times you might find that you’re updating, revising, expanding, and deleting parts of your list over several days. It’s all good! You primary focus is to get down all the ideas and goals that feel exciting and energizing.
Now is the most challenging step. It’s time to strategies just how you’re going to implement your great ideas by organizing them into goals and the steps, or objectives, which need to be completed in order to achieve your goals. Oh! BTW they should be S.M.A. R. T. goals.
What? What’s a S.M.A. R. T. goal?
Specific – This means you should have a clear understanding of what it is that you will do and what the end product will look like. For example, last year my goal was to continue doing a weekly e-zine providing useful information to my following. A weekly e-zine is a specific goal, and the e-zine itself is the end product.
It’s OK to change your goals mid-year if a better idea presents itself. Midyear I switched from a weekly e-zine to a monthly one and sent out event notices as needed. I realized my weekly e-zines were overwhelming my peeps who were already inundated with emails. I decided to go for quality, not quantity.
Measurable w/Measurement – This means you should have some idea as to whether you will meet the goal or not. For example, I was about 90% successful in getting out a weekly e-zine and 100% successful in getting out a monthly one. Considering I’m human and have a busy schedule, I feel good about achieving that goal.
Achievable – This means that there is a high probability that you can be successful at achieving your goal. For example, since I’ve been 90% successful in getting out a weekly e-zine and 100% when I switched to a monthly goal, it was an achievable goal.
Relevant – This means that your goal should serve a purpose, or have an impact. For example, my purpose was to share useful information. I frequently receive positive feedback on the information I share in my e-zines. Therefore they have relevance.
Time-Oriented – This means, “When will you achieve this goal? What is the start and end date?” For example, the time-bound goal for my e-zine was ‘weekly.’ When I switched to monthly, I still retained a time-bound goal.
Evaluating your goals to make sure they are ‘S.M.A.R.T.’ will help you stay practical and reasonable about what you can accomplish so you don’t fall victim to overwhelm and either burn out, get sick, or give up!
Organize into 3, 6, 9, 12 Month Goals
Once you’ve evaluated your goals, then start organizing them into 3, 6, 9, and 12 month goals. Now it’s time to begin identifying and scheduling monthly (or weekly if you are highly motivated and ambitious) steps or objectives. At this stage I tend to drill down and organize my goals and objectives for just 3 months at a time. I always keep the larger perspective in mind, but I’ve found that ‘life happens while we’re busy making plans to do something else.’ Goals and objectives often need to be fine-tuned and re-evaluated as the year progresses. One year I had knee surgery, another year I fell in love (not a good excuse to being knock off track, but I had fun!), and another year the recession hit. It’s important to keep some flexibility in your schedule so you can adapt and re-assess as needed.
Set aside a regular time to review your goals and objectives. This will help you stay on track, making it possible to hit your targeted goals in a timely manner. On the first day of the month, or week, doing a quick review of what’s on your schedule will help you with your progress so you can have a productive month, and a prosperous year!
With everything else that you have on your schedule, I can hear many of you groaning about having one more thing to do! But I promise you, if you take time to do this, not only will you complete your year on a high, but you will ensure that you have a more successful, prosperous, and happier New Year.
If setting your goals and objectives for the New Year feels too overwhelming, then give me a call and schedule a complimentary 30-minute consultation to find out how I can help you get organized and on track for a prosperous 2019. Call Joy at 415-819-8769 or email me today!
At one time in my life I was going through a really difficult time. Then I realized that it was my toxic attitude that was polluting everything I touched. If I wanted a better life, I knew I had to change my attitude. And I did!
Synchronistically, once I changed my attitude my whole life took a turn for the better. I manifested a new reality for myself just by changing my thoughts. And you can do that too!
We humans are only using about 10% of our cranial capacity. What’s the rest of our brain doing? It’s believed that the remaining 90% of our brain contains our telepathic and even our latent psychic abilities. If you are a cynic, just know that “magic is only science that we don’t understand yet.” A hundred years ago talking on a little hand-held box to someone thousands of miles away would have appeared “magical.” Today it’s commonplace.
In addition, some people are born with psychic abilities. Edgar Casey is just one well publicized case. Scientists are trying to explain how psychic abilities work. But, just because we can’t scientifically explain something doesn’t make it untrue.
I assert, therefore, that most humans have some form of telepathic or psychic abilities. Haven’t you been thinking of something and your partner verbalized what you were thinking? Or have you ever had a gut feeling that something was wrong, but ignored your hunch only to have something unpleasant happen? This has happened to most of us. These are our undeveloped telepathic or psychic abilities in action. We all have them; most of us just haven’t developed them.
When we have negative or depressive thoughts, not only is our body language expressing what’s going on inside, but the energy we radiate from our body is also full of electromagnetic energy. It’s part of our telepathic abilities. This can influence our reality by attracting more unpleasant experiences to us, while repelling positive ones. Have you noticed that when you’re in a bad mood, that the mood seems to linger; things just don’t go well all day.
On the converse, have you woken up in a great mood and find that the whole day goes smoothly with things easily falling into place? This energy is even contagious. When you encounter someone in a good mood, or bad mood, their energy can “rub off on you”.
A similar thing happens with worry. The more you worry, the more you can influence the very things you are worrying about to manifest. Even if the worst doesn’t happen, you’ve spent all that valuable time worrying and fretting when you could have put your time and energy into creating something of value. In addition, when you stay positive your mind is more resilient and open to possibilities. You’re able to engage in more creative and problem-solving activities than when you are steeped in worry.
Have you noticed that during a crisis that some people collapse emotionally and physically, while others move into action to help those in need. Many people with nagging depressive thoughts and worry are already feeling hopeless. They are at capacity. Just one more thing can push them over the edge. Others, who have a more positive solution-oriented attitude, are often more resilient and can galvanize into action. They are able to affect their reality in positive ways, even when the worst happens. Your attitude and thoughts can influence your reality.
If you need help changing your thoughts or your attitude, please contact me for a 30-minute complementary consultation. I would love to help you live a happier more purposeful life. Please contact me today by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org or calling 415-819-8769.
Have you ever struggled with a decision?
Of course you have! We all have. Especially in today’s world, because we are all confronted with way too many options!
I recently struggled with a decision. I was about to take action on something, but paused just long enough to realize it just might be motivated by my Aries impulsiveness. It’s gotten me in trouble before, big time! I didn’t want to make another decision that was going to end up in a lot of emotional pain… again! So, I called a friend. Sure enough, she told me it was a stupid idea. She saved me from making a costly mistake. (This is why we need our girlfriends – especially the ones who’ll “tell it like it is,” and won’t pussy-foot around being nice!)
In reality, I already knew it was a bad idea. That’s why I hesitated. If it had been a good idea, I would have felt a sense of certainty. I would have felt pleased and maybe even felt a sense of peace about the decision. Instead I felt enough caution to call a friend. I could have saved myself the phone call if I had paid attention to what I was feeling.
Our emotions are our friends. They are our internal alert system that lets us know what is good, or bad, for us. They are the barometer of what is going on inside. The challenge we all face, however, is that we are taught in our society that emotions are to be suspect. They can’t be trusted. They pull you off kilter. It’s better to keep you emotions in check and be ruled by your ‘mind.’
This is partially true. Our ‘mind’ is a great tool for analysis – for evaluating both sides of an argument. It helps us weigh facts and make practical decisions. However practical decisions are not always the best decisions. I once made a career decision based on what I thought would provide the best financial security for our household. What I really wanted to do, however, was to take a more interesting, but lower paying, position. I have never been unhappier in any job in my life! My decision was practical and logical, but I was miserable. I quit 6 months later! I had made the mistake of not taking my emotions into consideration.
Our emotions are our internal alert system. When we are angry, we’re being alerted that someone might be taking advantage of us, or treating us poorly. When we are fearful, we’re being warned to pay attention; danger may lie ahead. If we are edgy, nervous, or secretive about our actions, then we’re about to do something that isn’t in our best interest. When we feel pleasure, joy, or a sense of peace, our emotions are letting us know that whatever we are doing is a positive thing. Embrace it!
When we are busy thinking or worrying our way through a decision, we drown out our inner wisdom, which is linked to our emotional alert system. Worrying is a waste of time and confuses the matter. Instead, just grow calm and let your mind quiet down.
Once you are more relaxed, think about one choice you are facing. Listen – not to your mind running analysis – but instead, pay attention to what you are feeling in your body. Just notice your feelings. Then, one by one, weigh the other options. Take notes if you must, but just pay attention to your feelings.
If you feel anxious, nervous, pressured, burdened, fearful, distressed, cautious, or unease of any kind, then that choice may not be the best decision. If you feel calm, relaxed, a sense of ease or contentment, or even relief and/or happiness, then most likely this is the better course of action. Sometimes your choice will be the one that makes you feel less distress… or more joy.
I’m not advising that you ignore the practical elements needed to make a good decision. I am suggesting, however, that by accessing your inner wisdom and paying attention to your emotional reactions, you will be able to make better decisions that will end up being for your highest good and greatest joy.
If you are confused or feel uneasy about the decisions and choices you have made, or are about to make, please give me a call today and requests a 30-minute complimentary consultation. Call Joy 415-819-8769 or email me.
As children we buy into the beliefs of our parents. Sometimes those beliefs can be real downers such as: “Life never promised you a rose garden,” or “You only get ahead from hard work and effort,” or “I’m always waiting for the other shoe to fall,” or “Bad things always happen to us.”
In my family the belief was the “hard work and effort” litany of good German stock immigrants. Sure enough, a large part of my life has been hard work and effort, not because the validity of that belief, but because I bought into that belief.
I had a revelation several years ago that “life’s lessons can be learned with ease and grace.” I’ve been reflecting on that thought and, slowly, it has been integrating into my belief system. The result? … My life has gotten easier and more joyful.
Last week I wrote about accessing your Inner Wisdom. By allowing space in your life for quiet moments you gain access to the more reflective and wiser part of your mind. In our fast-paced, results-oriented society you may think you are getting a lot done. You could be even more innovative and productive, however, if you gave yourself permission to rest more and reflect. Then you could have more “revelations.”
Revelations are messages from your Inner Wisdom, which is directly connected to the highest source of consciousness in the universe. Some might call this consciousness Higher Power, God, Goddess, the Divine, The All That Is. The Divine communicates to us through our Inner Wisdom, which is also sometimes called the Higher Self or the Wise Mind.
One way you can actively engage your Inner Wisdom is to stop and take a step back when you are faced with a challenging situation. Then you can view the situation from a larger perspective. Going through two divorces and raising two sons (who, though awesome men now of whom I’m very proud, were more than a bit of a hand full as teenagers) was tough! At that time, life was pretty miserable. I thought life was nothing but drama, pain, and struggle.
Eventually, I was able to step back and view my life from the bigger picture. What I saw was not a wretched dead-beat drama-queen, but a woman who faced many difficult challenges, including her own vulnerabilities and character flaws, from which she learned invaluable life lessons. That was a time of huge personal and spiritual growth for me. Now, I not only draw on my training, education and skills when I work with my clients, or mentor women in my group work, but I also have a vast storehouse of life experience and understanding from which to tap into. My life was not just a miserable existence; it was my training ground preparing me for my life’s work.
You actively engage your Inner Wisdom when you step back from any situation and ask, “What can I learn from this situation?” or “What good thing can come out of this situation?”
I’ve come to realize that we didn’t incarnate to play in the “Rose Garden.” We came here to learn some pretty important lessons during our embodied walk upon this earth-plane. You can learn those lessons with a lot more ease and grace, however, if you take time to stop and rest. Give yourself some quiet time to reflect and allow your Inner Wisdom to come through. This will enable you to step back and ask the serious questions of “Why is this happening?” Be honest with yourself as you search within for the answers. Then you can reap the reward – the gold nugget – the lessons you can learn from your experience.
Look for my article next month on “Accessing Your Inner Wisdom Part Three” in which I will share on how your emotions are a big part of your inner wisdom and should be given more weight when making important decisions.
If you feel you are stuck in the drama and misery of your life and can’t find your way out, then give me a call today and request a 30-minute complimentary consultation. You deserve a more joyful and satisfying life. 415-819-8769 or email me TODAY!
Do you feel as if you’re constantly running from one thing to the next?
Are you too busy to even make that important “To-Do” list?
Do feel torn between the many choices and decisions you must make?
Then you’re probably so caught up in the immediate minutia of your life that you aren’t taking the necessary time needed to step back and get the bigger picture. When you can see the bigger picture of your life, then everything begins to make sense. The non-essentials naturally begin to fall away and you can focus on what truly matters.
The earth plane has been called “dense.” It’s as if we live under a veil of unknowing. Therefore we tend to operate “blind,” taking action – or not – hoping all the time that we are making the best move.
Once in a while, however, the veil lifts and we have one of those “Ah Ha” revelations – those moments of insight when the pieces start falling into place, completing the puzzle that’s confounded us for days, weeks, sometimes even months. Sometimes we receive greater understanding of a situation, or a person, or the “big picture” of our life, or even of the universe. This is our inner wisdom speaking to us.
Treasure these moments of revelations! Everything becomes clearer when we have them. Don’t you wish you could have them more often? The truth is, you can! Your inner wisdom is available to you whenever you need it.
Our society is based on “doing,” “results,” and “productivity.” Too little value is placed on taking time to “be” – to slow down and go into silence. This is when our inner wisdom can flow through the veil of “not-knowing” into our consciousness.
Let’s face it, though. We’re all too busy – so busy we’re often hyped up and can’t slow down. When we have a quiet moment, instead of connecting with our inner wisdom, we grab our cell phones to see what tidbit of information or connection it has for us. We hardly ever let our minds just coast.
Thomas Edison, one of America’s greatest inventors, knew the value of quiet moments. He frequently took “little naps.” Sometimes, when he was challenged with one of his inventions, he would rock in his rocking chair with ball-bearings in his hand. When he drifted off the ball-bearings would drop on the floor and wake him up. That moment of lucid thought before falling asleep often generated a brilliant idea, or the solution to the problem he was contemplating. These are moments of revelation!
You can have those moments too. It just means slowing down, letting yourself daydream, spend quiet moments looking at the sunset, or a beautiful view, or taking a quiet walk in nature. It means taking moments to relax without the TV, the cell phone, the iPad, or the computer. Just sit in silence!
A great way to create space for silence is to set aside 5 to 20 minutes a day. Just sit quietly, taking deep, slow breaths. The only thing you do is follow your breathing. If your mind is busy, you can try silently saying a word or phrase such as “peace,” “letting go,” “serenity,” or the Sanskrit word “Om.” If your mind strays, just pull it back to focusing on your breath. This practice actually strengthens your mind and improves concentration and focus.
When we quiet our bodies and let our minds free float, not only do we give ourselves valuable time to de-stress, but we also begin to let our inner wisdom flow into our consciousness for revelations.
After you become accustomed to sitting in silence, you’ll find that your inner wisdom will begin to offer up insight, help with decisions, and strengthen inner resources so you can confront life’s many challenges with greater calm and clarity.
If the busyness and stress of your life is depriving you of the well-being and happiness you deserve, please give me a call today and request a 30-minute complimentary consultation. Call Joy 415-819-8769 or email me.