Have you ever struggled with a decision?

Have you been so paralyzed by difficult choices that you end up doing nothing?

Of course you have! We all have. Especially in today’s world, because we are all confronted with way too many options!

I recently struggled with a decision. I was about to take action on something, but paused just long enough to realize it just might be motivated by my Aries impulsiveness. It’s gotten me in trouble before, big time! I didn’t want to make another decision that was going to end up in a lot of emotional pain… again! So, I called a friend. Sure enough, she told me it was a stupid idea. She saved me from making a costly mistake. (This is why we need our girlfriends – especially the ones who’ll “tell it like it is,” and won’t pussy-foot around being nice!)

In reality, I already knew it was a bad idea. That’s why I hesitated. If it had been a good idea, I would have felt a sense of certainty. I would have felt pleased and maybe even felt a sense of peace about the decision. Instead I felt enough caution to call a friend. I could have saved myself the phone call if I had paid attention to what I was feeling.

Our emotions are our friends. They are our internal alert system that lets us know what is good, or bad, for us. They are the barometer of what is going on inside. The challenge we all face, however, is that we are taught in our society that emotions are to be suspect. They can’t be trusted. They pull you off kilter. It’s better to keep you emotions in check and be ruled by your ‘mind.’

This is partially true. Our ‘mind’ is a great tool for analysis – for evaluating both sides of an argument. It helps us weigh facts and make practical decisions. However practical decisions are not always the best decisions. I once made a career decision based on what I thought would provide the best financial security for our household. What I really wanted to do, however, was to take a more interesting, but lower paying, position. I have never been unhappier in any job in my life! My decision was practical and logical, but I was miserable. I quit 6 months later! I had made the mistake of not taking my emotions into consideration.

Our emotions are our internal alert system. When we are angry, we’re being alerted that someone might be taking advantage of us, or treating us poorly. When we are fearful, we’re being warned to pay attention; danger may lie ahead. If we are edgy, nervous, or secretive about our actions, then we’re about to do something that isn’t in our best interest. When we feel pleasure, joy, or a sense of peace, our emotions are letting us know that whatever we are doing is a positive thing. Embrace it!

When we are busy thinking or worrying our way through a decision, we drown out our inner wisdom, which is linked to our emotional alert system. Worrying is a waste of time and confuses the matter. Instead, just grow calm and let your mind quiet down.

Once you are more relaxed, think about one choice you are facing. Listen – not to your mind running analysis – but instead, pay attention to what you are feeling in your body. Just notice your feelings. Then, one by one, weigh the other options. Take notes if you must, but just pay attention to your feelings.

If you feel anxious, nervous, pressured, burdened, fearful, distressed, cautious, or unease of any kind, then that choice may not be the best decision. If you feel calm, relaxed, a sense of ease or contentment, or even relief and/or happiness, then most likely this is the better course of action. Sometimes your choice will be the one that makes you feel less distress… or more joy.

I’m not advising that you ignore the practical elements needed to make a good decision. I am suggesting, however, that by accessing your inner wisdom and paying attention to your emotional reactions, you will be able to make better decisions that will end up being for your highest good and greatest joy.

If you are confused or feel uneasy about the decisions and choices you have made, or are about to make, please give me a call today and requests a 30-minute complimentary consultation.  Call Joy 415-819-8769 or email me.

 

As children we buy into the beliefs of our parents. Sometimes those beliefs can be real downers such as: “Life never promised you a rose garden,” or “You only get ahead from hard work and effort,” or “I’m always waiting for the other shoe to fall,” or “Bad things always happen to us.”

In my family the belief was the “hard work and effort” litany of good German stock immigrants. Sure enough, a large part of my life has been hard work and effort, not because the validity of that belief, but because I bought into that belief.

I had a revelation several years ago that “life’s lessons can be learned with ease and grace.” I’ve been reflecting on that thought and, slowly, it has been integrating into my belief system. The result? … My life has gotten easier and more joyful.

Last week I wrote about accessing your Inner Wisdom. By allowing space in your life for quiet moments you gain access to the more reflective and wiser part of your mind. In our fast-paced, results-oriented society you may think you are getting a lot done. You could be even more innovative and productive, however, if you gave yourself permission to rest more and reflect. Then you could have more “revelations.”

Revelations are messages from your Inner Wisdom, which is directly connected to the highest source of consciousness in the universe. Some might call this consciousness Higher Power, God, Goddess, the Divine, The All That Is. The Divine communicates to us through our Inner Wisdom, which is also sometimes called the Higher Self or the Wise Mind.

One way you can actively engage your Inner Wisdom is to stop and take a step back when you are faced with a challenging situation. Then you can view the situation from a larger perspective. Going through two divorces and raising two sons (who, though awesome men now of whom I’m very proud, were more than a bit of a hand full as teenagers) was tough!  At that time, life was pretty miserable.  I thought life was nothing but drama, pain, and struggle.

Eventually, I was able to step back and view my life from the bigger picture. What I saw was not a wretched dead-beat drama-queen, but a woman who faced many difficult challenges, including her own vulnerabilities and character flaws, from which she learned invaluable life lessons. That was a time of huge personal and spiritual growth for me. Now, I not only draw on my training, education and skills when I work with my clients, or mentor women in my group work, but I also have a vast storehouse of life experience and understanding from which to tap into. My life was not just a miserable existence; it was my training ground preparing me for my life’s work.

You actively engage your Inner Wisdom when you step back from any situation and ask, “What can I learn from this situation?” or “What good thing can come out of this situation?”

I’ve come to realize that we didn’t incarnate to play in the “Rose Garden.” We came here to learn some pretty important lessons during our embodied walk upon this earth-plane.  You can learn those lessons with a lot more ease and grace, however, if you take time to stop and rest. Give yourself some quiet time to reflect and allow your Inner Wisdom to come through. This will enable you to step back and ask the serious questions of “Why is this happening?” Be honest with yourself as you search within for the answers.  Then you can reap the reward – the gold nugget – the lessons you can learn from your experience.

Look for my article next month on “Accessing Your Inner Wisdom Part Three” in which I will share on how your emotions are a big part of your inner wisdom and should be given more weight when making important decisions.

If you feel you are stuck in the drama and misery of your life and can’t find your way out, then give me a call today and request a 30-minute complimentary consultation. You deserve a more joyful and satisfying life.  415-819-8769 or email me TODAY!

Our country was founded on the concepts of individualism, independence, and freedom. It’s founding was fueled by the drive to not only survive but to succeed. There was stiff competition, lots of opportunity, and the desire to conquer and own. People fought hard to ‘make it’; sometimes ruthlessly, sometimes driven by necessity, other times by greed or the desire for power and control.

Through their efforts our foremothers and fathers established a great country. Yet these same principles may be just what will bring about our demise if we don’t stop, assess the state of our lives, our country and the world, and begin to evolve our consciousness. Our survival no longer depends on more individualism and independence, but on realizing our interconnectedness to all things; that our survival depends on our ability to unite for the common good of all.

Fortunately, an increasing number of people are beginning to understand that everything is interconnected; that nothing operates in isolation. Systems theories and mainstream science is beginning to point strongly in this direction.

I began to understand the interconnectedness of all things when I had to take a life science class in college. The class on environmentalism changed the way I perceived the world! It introduced me to a world within our world; the delicate web that exists among all species and the elements (earth, air, fire and water) in an ecosystem. It’s now common knowledge that even the element fire plays a crucial role in some ecosystems. Pine cones will only release their seeds when subjected to fire, and fire cleans out the undergrowth making room for new growth. Redwoods thrive in areas where there is an abundance of fog. They get a large part of their water from the moisture in the air. The interrelatedness of all things in an ecosystem is amazing, miraculous and quite revealing!

Unfortunately, too few people understand the true scope and significance of the interrelatedness of all things in the environment. The fight to save one species may seem superfluous until you appreciate the delicate balance between all things within an ecosystem. The extinction of one species impacts the life cycle of another, possibly causing it to also fail. Ignorance of this delicate web can lead to the failure of a critical mass of species and elements causing the collapse of the entire eco-system. Species are becoming extinct at an alarming rate. Think global collapse!

Our evolution as a species depends on a greater awareness of the unity and interconnectedness of all things!

The Buddhists have always known about the interconnectedness of all things; physicists now confirm it.  Nothing that happens is an isolated event.  This interconnectedness also applies to us, the human species. Scientists are now aware that even the act of observing an experiment impacts the experiment. There is also a growing awareness that the more we label something, the more we actually isolate it.  The wholeness of life becomes fragmented and separate just through our thinking about it!

Many are also becoming aware that we are mirrors for each other. Meaning that often times what you might react to about another can also be found within you. This can range from friendliness and love, to less attractive qualities such as jealousy, selfishness, attention seeking, or control issues. As we allow ourselves to become aware of this, we become aware of our own ego and, thus, become more consciously aware.

Just as an ecosystem is interconnected, so are we as humans. To denigrate, disempower, and destroy one part of our species impacts the whole. Misogyny, racism, sexism, bigotry, genocide, slavery, poverty, war, intolerance, turning a blind eye to our neighbors, be it next door or another country, hurts us all. As a species we need to raise our consciousness and realize we are all interconnected. What hurts one part hurts us all.

The Women’s March that will take place across the nation this Saturday, January 20th is an expression of unity consciousness and interconnectedness. The mission of its organizers is to create a safe and healthy environment in which to nurture all families, and to create a better society for all people of all races, cultures, gender or gender orientation, disabilities, workers, immigrants, religious beliefs, etc.

The mission moves beyond the individual need to the needs of all people and the environment because we are all interconnected. When we unite – all the people – amazing things can happen.

As more people raise their consciousness and become aware that we are all interconnected, we have the opportunity to shift as one into a more peaceful and loving world. Isn’t that what we all truly want?

If you feel called, take action and join the movement this Saturday, January 20, 2018

https://www.womensmarch.com/

Mother Mary, the Queen of Heaven and the Divine Mother, has been with me this last month as we approach the Winter Solstice this Thursday, December 21, 2017. On this day, in the Pagan tradition, the world celebrates the birth of the Divine Child. Just four days later, on Christmas, the birth of Jesus, the Christed One, is celebrated.

In honor of the Divine Mother, I am leading two circles this December honoring Our Lady of Guadalupe, who was the apparition of Mother Mary to an indigenous Aztec Indian in Mexico on December 12, 1531.

I was inspired to gift you with a “Love and Light Visualization with Mother Mary” which I created a few years ago in honor of her. You will find the link below.

Debates and discussions about the nature of Mother Mary have raged on for 2000 years until in 1965 when a Catholic Council called the Vatican II demoted Mary to little more than a Nazarene housewife, a country woman, a human vessel that served as the gestating container for a divine seed, and little more.  Yet in the hearts of the people, as she has been depicted in art throughout the ages, there has been a longing to connect Mother Mary with the Great Mother whose compassion and mercy comforts, supports, and nurtures those who seek her out.

Mother Mary has filled the void of the Mother Goddess that I believe is central to our human collective unconscious.  Since Paleolithic times, humans have honored the Great Mother. Within 500 years after the Divine birth of Jesus, as the cults of Isis, Cybele, Artemis and Diana dwindled along with the Roman Empire, the ancient goddess temples were rededicated to Mother Mary.  Even the imagery of the older goddesses was passed on to Mary, the Mother of Jesus, the Christed One.

In addition, visitations of Mother Mary have been cited 21,000 in the last 1000 years, including the visitation of Our Lady of Guadalupe in 1531. These visitations of the Blessed Mother strongly support the need of the Sacred Feminine principle that lives on in our collective psyche.

The importance of Mary is more than her stature, her part in history, or religion, or culture. It has to do with our personal relationship with Her as the Divine Mother – the ‘knowing’ experience of Her compassion, mercy and grace. It is a felt experience that can’t be expressed with language or logic.  Her image as Queen of Heaven and as the Great Mother Goddess archetype endures because it continues to persist in our collective human unconscious.

The Great Mother has, and will continue to, prevail.  She has survived 5000 years of patriarchy and 4000 years of the worship of the monotheistic male god.  She will survive because, as a Divine symbol of the Feminine, She is part of the balance of nature. Nature always settles back to its equilibrium.

The fulcrum under patriarchy pitched far to the right.  It is now floating back to center as the Divine Feminine principle is re-claiming Her rightful place beside the Divine Masculine principle.

The Great Mother is present in the image of Mary, the Mother of the Divine Child who brought Christ Consciousness to aid humanity in its evolution.

May this visualization with Mother Mary surround you with love, light, and peace.

Love and Light Visualization with Mother Mary

 

 You may also listen by clicking below:

 

  • Do you need some compassionate support during this Holiday Season?
  • Do you long to connect with the loving energies of the Divine Mother?
  • Would you like to join others in sending loving and compassionate energies out into the world?

Then please join us this Wednesday as we will celebrate Our Lady of Guadalupe and be embraced with Her love and compassion.

Our Lady of Guadalupe
Circle with the Divine Feminine
Wednesday, Dec 20, 2017 –  6:30 to 8:30
Blossoming Paths
10227 Fair Oaks Boulevard, Fair Oaks, CA

If you need some compassionate support during this holiday season, please contact Joy Reichard for a 30-minute complimentary consultation and see how she can support you on your life’s journey during the holiday season and beyond. Call Joy at 415-819-8769 or email Joy TODAY!

Do you feel the wildness within?

… The energy of the wild woman that cries to be unleashed? Then you must also know that wild women need their sisters.

There is a vastness to us. We are mystical – sometimes even mysterious. We are rich and vibrant and full of passion and purpose. In fact, we surge with it. It rises up in us — an all-consuming fire — and we burn with deep knowing, profound understanding, and a message to live in whatever way we see fit.

If the wild woman is awakening, you know it! You feel the emerging fire.

Your divinity — your soul — is ready to be embodied. You are asked to become a living goddess, embracing the authority and immortality that comes with soul-full living.

We are fierce.
We have proven that we have what it takes to overcome great hardship. We have proven that our hearts can withstand our darkest days and still blaze the trail forward. We have conceived of the goddess within us. We are pregnant with the lights of our own being.

We are Sensual.
Being sensual is more than being sexual. The more you embrace your sensuality, the more you can embrace your sexuality. Being sensual means paying attention to and thoroughly enjoying what your senses are telling you.  It means fully experiencing the delight of beautiful smells, delicious tastes, interesting sounds, and the pleasures of touch.

When you pay attention to your senses you can more easily make that transition from working woman/mother/daughter/crone to sensual and sexual wild woman.

We are quickening.
Oh, can you feel it? Can you feel what is about to be born? The eclipses of this month have birthed us into the light. It is time to call our sisters to us. We must gather now. We must draw each other near. We all need midwives. We all need doulas.

We all need the songs of angels and the prayerful medicines of wise women in our midst. We are birthing a new world.

A sister circle is not a luxury. It is essential to our emotional and spiritual health.

Our culture pits women against each other because women of shared intent are dangerous to oppressive masculine systems. But we are wiser than that.

We know our own power, and when we create a circuit of energy with other loving and conscious women, we magnify the nurturing, the healing, the grace, the freedom, the creativity and the love our lives stand for.

Have you been yearning for a sister circle as much as I have?

If so, then I invite you to join one of the sister circles I’m offering. See the upcoming events below and make a commitment to join us. We welcome you in sisterhood.

In Her Name Circle (San Mateo, CA)

Hindu Shakta Tantra & Ancient Female Blood Mysteries
Featuring Kimberley Gibbons,

MA Women’s Spirituality, PhD student in Philosophy & Religion

 

Friday, August 25, 2017

7 to 9:00 PM

Unitarian Universalist of San Mateo, 300 E. Santa Inez, San Mateo, CA 94401

$15 online or $20 at the door

 

Circle with the Divine Feminine (Fair Oaks, CA)

Artemis: Patron Goddess of the Amazons

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

6:30 to 8:30 PM

 

Blossoming Path: 10227 Fair Oaks Blvd, Fair Oaks Village, CA

$10 Love Donation

Adapted from an article by Rebelle Society: Creatively Maladjusted http://www.rebellesociety.com/2015/01/28/a-sister-circle-is-not-a-luxury-7-guidelines-for-starting-your-own/

 

I have always prided myself for living in a country that valued its integrity and human rights policy. Now, with tweets of “Fake News” and accusations of lies, of withholding truth, or alternative facts, I find myself questioning the importance of honesty and integrity. For me, this also brings into question our relationships: with our loved ones, that special loved one, with our community, or public leaders, and with ourselves.

Without relationships, I feel the human experience of life as we know it cannot exist. (This is a subject for a blog post on another day.)

Relationships are, of course, complicated and have many elements – but there is one element that glues everything together. That fundamental element is trust.

How do you build trust in your relationships – including your relationship with yourself?
Live your life with these two values: 

Honesty and Integrity.

Honesty: Be true to others in all that you do.

I had two very important relationships in the past with individuals who were not always truthful to me. The mistruths, deceptions, and outright lies eventually broke my trust. Once that trust was broken, I couldn’t get it back. At my core I no longer trusted that person. Consequently, it destroyed the relationship.

What happens, then, when our public leaders withhold truth, lie, or consistently make accusations of others, thereby misconstruing the truth?

Integrity: Be true to yourself in all that you do.
Integrity is intertwined with your values. I learned my values from a composite of what was taught to me by my parents, my religious upbringing, and from my education. They included basic concepts like:
  • All people have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
  • Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
  • Be compassionate to those in need.
  • Be tolerant of differences.
  • Do no harm.
  • People have the right to be free of discrimination based on race, color, gender, national origin, age, religion, creed, disability, veteran’s status, sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression.
Why are these values so important?

First, the greatest success in life is being happy with yourself. If integrity is absent from your life, you cannot be happy with yourself. Sure, you can still pursue pleasure … but you will be blocking yourself from any significant fulfillment. If honesty is absent, you will have to lie to yourself to be able to come “comfortably” to terms with your own actions. And the minute you lie to yourself, you violate your integrity … and, in the process, block yourself from true happiness and fulfillment.

If you cannot be honest with people, you cannot develop long-term meaningful relationships with anyone, because there is no trust between you. No matter how skilled you are at being deceptive, the truth eventually comes to the surface. When it does, trust is gone. Without trust the relationship begins to erode like a cancer from within.

If you are not honest with yourself … if you violate your own values, you will have difficulty trusting yourself. You will eventually become overwhelmed with doubt, and with good reason.

This is why I can’t support reducing taxes when one of the costs is sacrificing affordable healthcare for everyone and giving windfalls to the wealthy. Why I can’t stand behind closing our borders to refugees escaping the horrors of war because they come from countries known to house terrorists. Why I can’t support billions of dollars being invested in a wall to separate us from our neighbors, when these same neighbors are so desperate for employment they will take our most menial of jobs. Not to mention that this wall will siphon off funds from much needed programs to help our children, seniors, and the ill or vulnerable.

If you think that taking a shortcut, and sacrificing your integrity and living out of alignment with basic values, will somehow get you more money, success and security or even more fun and pleasure, think again. You’re probably thinking short term. In the long term, violating trust with others or with your self is the surest way to failure. Also, remember to never confuse pleasure with happiness … they are very different terms and values (again, another post for another day – but the basic idea is that pleasure is a shorter term feeling while happiness is a long-term element of the human experience).

Of course, your values and the meanings you attach to honesty and integrity can be different from mine – but regardless of how you define these values, I strongly urge you to take a serious look at how you apply these values in your life, your business, your relationships, and your responses to the world. Short-term results may be deceiving – think about the life you want to create … the person you want to become… and the world you want your grandchildren to inherit.

Adapted from

FreedomPassionPurpose.com….