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Is It Safe to Play it Safe?

I recently set a boundary. It was with a colleague whom I liked and respected. Setting that boundary was really tough!

Here I am, a ‘mature’ business woman with lots of life experience, who runs her own practice, and is a leader in her community… and it was still very challenging to set that boundary! How many of you experience similar difficulties when having to confront someone for whatever reason?

Well… I ended up setting the boundary, but then spent a sleepless night stewing over it. What came up in the stew was that I felt guilty because I ‘dared’ to set a boundary!

As I ‘unpacked’ my feelings attempting to get at the source of why this had me in such turmoil, I realized that, somehow, I felt wrong for setting the boundary. As if it wasn’t OK to protect my space.

I finally comprehended that I had been living by an old story about how I should show up in the world. It went something like this: “Be nice, accommodating and understanding of everyone else. It’s your job. It’s OK if others take advantage of you because of your niceness. They will like you for being so nice and accommodating. You must be liked. The world won’t be safe if you aren’t liked.”

Wow! Where did this come from? I had been giving everyone license to walk all over me. Where was my backbone? What happened to my power?

As I dug deeper I realized that as a preacher’s kid with a stern father, I had quickly learned that as a child being super “nice” was expected.  It became the ‘role’ I took on and played all my life. When I set that boundary, I confronted the role of “be nice and accommodating.”  I said, “NO! I deserve to be respected.”

Even though I did the right thing, I still went through quite a bit of inner disturbance. This showed me how challenging it can be to change an old story about how one should show up in the world. Even if I was ready to change that old story, it still created a lot of inner conflict!

We all have our stories that define the roles by which we live. Some build us up by flooding us with confidence and inner strength. Others are self-denigrating and self-sabotaging. They keep us stuck in being small, limited, and filled with self-doubt.

Changing these old stories can be challenging, especially when it generates fear or panic like it did for me. Some of these stories sound like, “I’m not good enough so I’d better not take on anything too big.”  Or, “It’s not safe to be seen so I better play it low key.”  Or, “I have to work really hard to make it. There’s no time for play or having fun.”  Or, “Why bother to try. Somebody else will do it better.”

These old stories go on and on, simmering just under the radar in our subconscious and keeping us from living to our potential. When we try to stretch ourselves, our fear of actually doing something outside the norm yanks us back into staying ‘safe’… but small.

It’s time for you to start living as your big self. When you feel that sense of fear or panic, gather up your courage, then ‘Do It Anyway.’

The rewards of standing in your truth and changing those old stories are much greater than staying stuck in a role that has grown much too small for the potential of who you can be!

So, what happened with that colleague with whom I set the boundary? She realized that she had overstepped her bounds and was apologetic. She made appropriate amends. The result is that our friendship and collegial relationship is stronger than ever, and I feel more empowered because I took a stand and claimed my right to be respected.

If you are plagued with negative thoughts and old stories of how you should show up in your life, then give me a call for a 30-minute complimentary consultation and find out how you can live the life you were joyfully meant to live. Call me TODAY! 415-819-8769 or email me.
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Women, Beware the Pink Net

Ever felt like you were getting shot down in the office… by other women?

This is an unfortunate complaint that I hear from some of my clients and friends. The glass ceiling is still there, as demonstrated recently on the political scene – although now women are waking up and becoming more assertive at poking holes through it.

Other women I talk to, however, are concerned about getting caught in what I’ve come to call the Pink Net. Corporate women are finding themselves entangled in the male culture of competition and dominance. In order to climb the ladder some tend to turn on other women by holding them back and keeping them down.

Ouch!

To succeed many of my corporate clients have worked hard to become more like men – tough, competitive, driven! For men this style obviously works. There’s a reason the “old boys club” has been around so long.

There is a big difference, though, in how men and women play the competitive game. Men dwell mostly in their heads and are less ruled by emotions. They like to compete – be the top dog – yet they don’t personalize the battle. They go out for drinks after a heated conference room clash of priorities and ideas. There they shift from their recent board room battle to hashing out the latest ball game as if they’re the best of friends.

Women, however, are relational; we are more in touch with our feelings. While this has some obvious benefits, it also makes it tougher for us to keep our emotions out of the equation. We tend to personalize disagreements – business or otherwise. After a conference room battle, our emotions can be stirred up. They can linger and fester. Internalized, women can turn their negative emotions on other women in the male hierarchical tradition of keeping others down to build themselves up. Or they dampen down their emotions and become the dragon lady boss. (I had one of these once. It was not pleasant!) This personalization of boardroom disputes hurts women individually and collectively in corporate life.

Women’s cultural and natural inclination is to form circles of collaboration where we can support, listen to, and encourage one another. As a result, when we start throwing punches like the boys, there’s an internal cost. It’s hard to divorce ourselves from our feelings and stay in our heads like the guys. And in an effort to stay one-up, the cost can mean projecting our frustration and fear on other women.
So what’s the solution? One is for women to build on what comes naturally: circles of collaboration.

Artemis, the Greek Goddess of the Hunt, refused to follow the traditional female role of wife and mother. Instead she asked her father, Zeus, for a bow and arrow so she could roam free in the woods with her circle of nymphs. Artemis and the nymphs were self-sufficient, hunting and supporting each other. They created a circle of collaboration.

Instead of buying into the competitive game, women might focus on building networks of support, encouragement and guidance within the corporate structure. Men have a system of mentoring. Their mentees are advised, guided and encouraged through their development. Then the mentees are brought with them up the ladder. Or the mentees move on to become colleagues in other departments or companies.

There is a growing tradition of female mentoring in US corporations. There just aren’t enough of them YET! Are we really too busy or too competitive to stop and help one another through the ranks?

Mentoring could be the type of collaboration women can embrace. I know this is happening in some of the younger newer and savvier companies. Yet we still have a long way to go in the larger more male dominated corporations.

If you feel you are not getting the support and encouragement you need from other women, then I encourage you to find a women’s circle that encourages feminine empowerment, fosters supportive relationships, shares feminine wisdom, and honors feminine ways of knowing and being in the world. Women’s wisdom and feminine influence has the potential to change the world. We can start right in our own community.

There are many women’s groups out there – some are business related, others support personal growth and development, and still others focus on spiritual development. Search out the kind that you feel will support you best.
I currently lead two such women’s circles that focus on personal and spiritual growth. One is “Circle with the Divine Feminine” in Fair Oaks CA, the other is the “In Her Name Circle” in San Mateo, CA. I personally invite you to check us out. We would love to welcome you.

If you are feeling challenged with how to show up with confidence and strength as a woman, then contact Joy to find out how she can help YOU be more authentically YOU. Phone 415-819-8769 or email Joy TODAY!
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Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness

Has someone hurt you in the past? Maybe betrayed a trust? Offered unwelcomed criticism? Placed blame unfairly?

When someone hurt you, did you have you have a hard time letting it go? Did you harbor anger, resentment, or even thoughts of revenge?

Have you found it difficult to embrace forgiveness and move forward?

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a project, or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness, or even vengeance.

I’ve harbored bitter feelings towards a couple of ‘exes’ for a long time. During a recent illness that lingered for 6 weeks I was given way too much time to process these old hurts. I did a lot of reflection on forgiveness and compassion and why these too human characteristics are so important.

Wise elders from all traditions have told us that if we don’t practice forgiveness, we might be the ones who pay most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, we’re told that we can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.

Forgiveness can lead you down the path ofphysical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

Defining forgiveness

Generally, forgiveness is coming to terms with the wisdom of letting go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. Although you might always remember the act that hurt or offended, eventually there is realization that forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. The process of forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you. Nor does it minimize or justify the wrong. It’s possible to forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness allows you to find a place of inner peace that helps you go on with life free from the feelings of resentment and bitterness.

The importance of forgiveness

Letting go of grudges and bitterness can help you create a life with more happiness, health and peace. The Mayo Clinic claims that forgiveness can lead to:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • Stronger immune system
  • Improved heart health
  • Higher self-esteem
Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?

When you’re hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. Dwelling on these hurtful events or situations allows grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility to fester and take root. Our imagination is so powerful that rehashing these negative feelings can inflame the hurt and pain so that it crowds out positive feelings. Then you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.

Holding a grudge can harm you

If you hold onto these old grudges and resentments, the Mayo Clinic states that you might:

  • Pollute other relationships and new experiences with anger and bitterness
  • Allow the toxic memories of past wrongs to negatively impact the present
  • Become depressed or anxious
  • Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or to cause you to feel disconnected from spirit or your spiritual beliefs
  • Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others
How can you reach a state of forgiveness?

Forgiveness is decision to be honest with yourself and reflect on the situation with more compassion and a larger perspective of yourself and the other party or parties.

To begin, you might:

  • Reflect on the particulars of the situation, how you’ve reacted, and how the resentment and bitterness has affected your life, health and well-being.
  • Consider the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time.
  • Actively choose to view the other person with compassion while trying to understand them and their situation, and allow forgiveness to emerge when you are ready.
  • Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power that the offending person and situation has had on your life.

As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.

Forgiveness isn’t easy

It’s not always easy to forgive. This is especially true if the other person doesn’t want to admit wrong and/or doesn’t speak of his or her own sorrow. If you find yourself stuck:

  • Consider the situation from the other person’s point of view.
  • Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such a way. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation.
  • Reflect on times you’ve hurt others and on those who’ve forgiven you.
  • Write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation – or talk with a person you’ve found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one or friend.
  • Be aware that forgiveness is a process and even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven over and over again.
Forgiveness and reconciliation
It’s important to remember that forgiveness doesn’t always lead to reconciliation. If you’ve had a close relationship with the offending party prior to the hurt, then forgiveness might lead to reconciliation. This isn’t always the case, however. Sometimes there can be forgiveness yet the relationship never quite goes back to the way it was.

If the offender has died or is unwilling to communicate then it might not be possible to achieve reconciliation. Sometimes reconciliation might not be appropriate. Still, it’s important to remember that forgiveness is possible – even if reconciliation isn’t.

Forgiveness isn’t about getting another person to change his or her actions, behavior or words. Forgiveness is more about how it can change your life by helping you to find greater peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can also take away the power the other person continues to wield in your life.

Forgiveness is a process that takes time

Remember, forgiveness is a process. Your ability to forgive may not happen overnight. Nor can you force someone to forgive you if, in your process, you realize that you might have to take some responsibility for what happened.

People need to move to forgiveness in their own time. Whatever the outcome, allow yourself to move to a state of forgiveness. Forgiveness is important for your own health and well-being. Then commit to treating others with compassion, empathy and respect.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was YOU!

If you are harboring bitterness, anger, and/or resentment and are having a hard time letting it go, then give Joy Reichard a call to find out how she can help you move to a state of forgiveness so you can find more peace and happiness in your life. Email Joy today or contact Joy at 415-819-8769.

Adapted from words of wisdom obtained from a Mayo Clinic article on forgiveness.

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You Are Enough

YOU ARE ENOUGH!
The words are simple enough, but the deeper meaning is often overlooked, dismissed, trivialized, or neglected. Though the words “you are enough” are familiar, if you are anything like me, you may notice them for a moment, maybe think it’s a clever phrase, or even profound, but then you’re off to the next thing. The meaning and relevancy of “you are enough” is quickly forgotten.

It’s HARD to accept the fact that you just might be enough. It is easier to internalize the criticisms, compare yourself with others, constantly push yourself to be the best, or crumble inside thinking you will never be the best. Your perception is that “the best” is always just a little out of reach.

I struggle with “you are enough.” My father was a Methodist minister. Expectations of a PK (preacher’s kid) are always high. Burdensomely so! I just wanted to be a normal, mischievous kid. That didn’t go over too well with my authoritative preacher dad who had high expectations.

I got into the habit of self-criticism and comparing myself to others. Though I was good at a lot of things, I kept beating myself up for all those areas where I came up short. “I’m not thin enough.” “I’m not athletic enough.” “I’m not popular enough.” “I’m just plain not good enough!”

I was so down on myself that I forgot how to celebrate my successes. That doesn’t make any sense, does it? We all have things that we’re good at, and things we aren’t so good at. That’s the way the All-That-Is planned it. If we all were supposed to be rock stars and beauty queen contestants, then there would be no truck drivers, mail carriers, nurses, and cooks. Variety and diversity is what makes our world work. There is someone in every community to fill most every niche.

Though I know that believing “you are enough” is an inside job, I still want to try and save you some of the aggravation that I’ve gone through to embrace what seems like such a simple revelation. Even now there are some days when I get it! Then there are other days when I don’t. Those days when I feel down in the dumps I wonder if I will ever be enough. I’m learning, however, to remind myself of all the things I’m good at, and about the good things I’ve done. That helps me get out of my slump and back into action.

Here are some tips shared by Erin Bahadur that remind me that “I am enough.” Please read and embrace them:

  1. There is no perfection. Anyone who believes there is, or insists that you should attain that status, is not worth your time. You are enough!
  2. There is no goal that you could ever achieve that will convince you that you are enough. If you don’t already believe that before you get there, then you still won’t believe it once you do.
  3. You are an incredible person. I don’t even know you, but I can tell you without a doubt that there is something in you that sets you apart from everyone else. You need to find that thing and embrace it. Nurture it. You are special. You are enough!
  4. I know that other people’s opinions, external comparisons, and your own negative self-talk may have brought you to a place where you question your self-worth. Some days are worse than others, but realize that on every single day YOU ARE ENOUGH!
  5. As long as you know you are enough, no one can ever tell you that you’re not.
In the past I exhausted myself trying to be what I thought others, and the world, wanted me to be. We humans are social creatures and of course it’s natural to want to be liked and to belong.

It too me a while to realize, however, that the more that I spoke from the heart, and took the time to nurture the things that make me unique, the more receptive I found the world to be. In fact, I found that being my self requires far less work. This has made it possible to invest more time in developing who I am.

The world wants you to stand up and be YOU because nothing will happen if you don’t. You are enough, and your enough-ness is what makes the world a better place.

If you struggle with believing you are enough and want to find out how working with Joy can help you step into your potential and find greater happiness, then give Joy a call at 415-819-8769 or email Joy today.
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10 Tips to Help You Cope with Anxiety and Fear

There has been a lot of uncertainty lately as the status quo has been called into question. People are concerned about the rights they have enjoyed for years being taken away. Benefits that many people depend on now seem to be uncertain. Blame for the state of affairs is being flung at both sides of the political arena while the government seems unstable and invested in “alternative truth.” At times it can be difficult to find something secure and stable to hang on to.

When our leaders model instability, conflict, and antagonism, it can create a mass consciousness of insecurity. This can then filter down to us on a personal level so that we, the people, begin to experience even more worry, fear, and anxiety about our day to day lives.
How can YOU cope when experiencing anxiety, worry, and fear?

Here are 10 tips to help you cope with your day-to-day fears and anxieties.

1. Take time out 

It’s impossible to think clearly when you’re flooded with fear or anxiety. The first thing to do is take time out so you can physically calm down.

Distract yourself from the worry for 15 minutes by walking around the block, making a cup of tea, reading the funnies or an engaging book, or soaking in a bath. Whatever you do – DON’T WATCH THE NEWS WHEN YOU’RE FEELING ANXIOUS!

2. Breathe through panic 

If your heart beat starts to race, or your palms start to sweat, the best thing is not to fight it.

Stay where you are and simply feel the panic without trying to distract yourself. Place the palm of your hand on your stomach and inhale deeply, hold your breath for a few seconds, then exhale slowly. Repeat this breathing pattern for several minutes or until you have calmed down. The goal is to help the mind get used to coping with panic, which takes the fear of fear away.

3. Face your fears 

Avoiding fears only makes them scarier. Whatever your fear, if you face it, it should start to fade. For instance, if you panic one day getting into an elevator, it’s best to get back into an elevator the next day. This helps to desensitize you from your fear.

4. Imagine the worst 

Try imagining the worst thing that can happen – perhaps it’s panicking and having a heart attack. Then try to think yourself into having a heart attack. It’s just not possible. The fear will run away the more you chase it.

5. Look at the evidence 

It sometimes helps to challenge fearful thoughts. For example, if you’re scared of getting trapped in an elevator and suffocating, ask yourself if you have ever heard of this happening to someone. Ask yourself what you would say to a friend who had a similar fear.

Another thing you can do is ask, “What can I do about this fear?” Often times you may find that there is something you can do about it. If there is, then do it! Taking control is a great way to lessen your fears.

6. Don’t try to be perfect 

Life is full of stresses, yet many of us feel that our lives must be perfect. Bad days and setbacks will always happen, and it’s important to remember that life is messy. Just do the best you can and accept that your best is “good enough!”

7. Visualize a happy place 

Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a place of safety and calm. It could be a picture of you walking on a beautiful beach, or snuggled up in bed with the cat next to you, or a happy memory from childhood. Let the positive feelings soothe you until you feel more relaxed.

8. Talk about it 

Sharing fears takes away a lot of their scariness. Call a partner, friend or family member and share your fears with them. Sometimes just hearing yourself talk can help you process and release the fear.

If your fears aren’t going away, then talk with your doctor. Your doctor can refer you to a counselor or psychotherapist. (Hopefully they will do this before giving you a pill.) Or contact a hypnotherapist. Hypnotherapists are trained to help people cope with their anxiety and fears.

9. Go back to the basics 

Lots of people turn to alcohol or drugs in an effort to self-medicate their anxiety. This, however, only make matters worse. Simple, everyday things like a good night’s sleep, a wholesome meal, hanging out with a friend or loved one, and/or a walk are often the best cures for anxiety.

10. Reward yourself 

Finally, give yourself a treat. When you have taken that first step or have made that call you’ve been dreading, for example, reinforce your success by treating yourself to a massage, a country walk, a meal out, a book, a DVD, or whatever little gift makes you happy.

Anxiety or fear is a feeling we are having. It is not the totality of us, though sometimes it feels like that. Our bodies were actually made to process our feelings. The more we resist our fears or try to stuff them, the more they will persist – often times poking their ugly heads out at the most inconvenient times. Instead of trying to medicate or stuff your fears and anxieties, try one or more of these methods instead. You will be surprised how effective these tips can be.

If you are struggling with anxiety, worries, or fears, then you give Joy a call for a complimentary 30-minute consultations and find out how she can help you cope more effectively so you can master your fears. 415-819-8769 or email Joy today!

Adapted from NHS Choices
http://www.nhs.uk/pages/home.aspx
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You Are More Than Your Brain

My father and I share a common trait – intellectual curiosity. Lately this has led us to reading books and discussing topics on the nature of the soul, self-awareness, and higher consciousness. Dad often challenges me to read a particular book. The most recent challenge is Super Brain by Deepak Chopra and Rudolph E Tanzi. Dad claims that if I want to stay mentally alert and active into old age (he’s 88, and is as sharp and alert as ever) then this book is a must-read!

Dutifully reading Super Brain for an upcoming visit with my father, I was intrigued by one subheading – “You Are Not Your Brain.” It stresses that many of us don’t realize that we are our own ‘reality makers.’ For instance, when suffering from a cold we tend to say, “I have a cold.” But when we are suffering from depression we tend to say, “I am depressed.”
“I am (whatever…)” is a powerful statement. It means you identify with whatever condition you are experiencing. In other words, your mood colors your world. So when you identify with being depressed, then the world reflects how you feel. The world can literally lose its vibrant colors and seem gray, lifeless, humorless and lacking in joy.

Yet it’s not your brain that is in charge of your identity. If this were true then it would make as much sense to say you are a yellow lemon, or a tree, or a grey rock as it would be to say you are depressed. What’s really going on has to do with brain electrical chemistry and how that is intimately connected to your emotions and perception.

Researchers have found that by applying a small electrical charge to a specific part of the motor cortex that the arm will move. When the patient is asked what happened, the response is, “My arm moved.” Yet when instructed to move their arm, the patient’s response is, “I moved my arm.”

This indicates that there is another element at play that impacts the brain. It’s the “I,” or your mind, which is linked with the brain, but is also separate from the brain. The “I” is what controls the brain, and is much more powerful than you may recognize.

Many of my clients suffer from depression, anxiety, or troubling negative thoughts. One of my goals is to help them separate the “I” from their reactive unconscious functioning. My mantra is “Your mind is a muscle. You are the one in charge.”

Most often we don’t realize that we are in charge. We let our reactive unconscious perceptions of the world control our actions. This is why we erupt in anger, act on our jealousies, give in to our greed, are obsessed with control, sink into depression, and the list goes on and on.
Super Brain lists some pointers on how you can take control of your mind, and thus your life, by transforming your perception.

  • Take responsibility for your own experience.
  • Be skeptical of fixed reactions, both yours and anyone else’s.
  • Confront old conditioning. It leads to unconscious behavior.
  • Be aware of your emotions and where they come from.
  • Examine your core beliefs. Hold them up to the light, and discard beliefs that make you stuck.
  • Ask yourself what part of reality you are rejecting. Freely consult the viewpoint of the people around you. Respect what they see in the situation.
  • Practice empathy so that you can experience the world through someone else’s eyes.
If you pursue these steps, then you can progress from unconscious behaviors to being more aware, to self-awareness. The goal is to become self-aware. This is the place of self-mastery from where you can create your reality. It is remarkable how changing your perception can transform your life!

If you feel your life is controlled by depressive or negative thoughts or anxiety please email me or call 415-819-8769 TODAY for a complimentary consultation to find out how Transformational Life Coaching with Hypnotherapy can help YOU become the maker of your reality.

 

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Divine Feminine Rising

The Divine Feminine called me to do her work way back in 2003. Since 2005 I have been leading workshops and classes sharing what I have learned about the Divine Feminine. It thrills me to see the Divine Feminine moving into the collective consciousness on a wider scale. Thank you, Meg Benedict, for sharing in your article below how the rise of the Divine Feminine is depicted in the stars!

My last workshop, Awakening to Spiritual Consciousness, A Sacred Intensive for Emerging Women, focused on the Ascension process and how the Divine Feminine and contemporary women were central to the planetary Ascension process.

For more information about the Divine Feminine and the Ascension Process, check out the events that are posted below.

Hello (from Meg Benedict),

While Venus is moving retrograde from March 4th until April 15th, it will span 13º Aries back to 26º Pisces. Venus represents the sacred feminine and rules beauty, values, self-esteem, romantic love and deep healing. Since February, the 2 eclipses have triggered energetic clearings and healings, including any traces of shadow opposition from the body/heart/mind. Many came down with ‘kundalini flu’ as congested emotional trauma released into the Light.

This Sunday, March 12th there will be a Full Moon in the earth-bound sign of 22º Virgo. Combined with Venus Retro, you can expect to feel your feminine power rising within you and in the planetary collective. This is evident in growing public outrage, marches and demands for women’s rights, pay equality, female empowerment and respect. The Virgo Full Moon enhances your inner warrior to develop more self-worth, self-care and healing transformation.

The Virgo Full Moon also connects directly to the ongoing ‘Jupiter – Uranus opposition’ transit. You may experience sudden outbursts or reactions to perceived limitations and seek more personal freedom in your life. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself demanding liberation from all violations and setting healthy boundaries in all that you do.

The planetary Ascension depends on the return of the divine feminine. The native nations are leading the movement for clean water, air, food supply and human rights. The feminine power inspires more compassion and loving kindness for all life on the planet. The corruption and deception are being revealed to the public for cleansing and dissolution.

You are being prepared for the upcoming Equinox Stargate upgrades arriving on March 20th.  This month is a powerful threshold point into higher dimensional consciousness. As the out-dated energies are dropping away, you are rising into a unified state of Oneness!

Join other Light Warriors from around the world for the Equinox Stargate Global Activations on Monday, March 20th at 12pm PT. Register here.

Lovingly, Meg

Copyright (c) 2017 Meg Benedicte * All Rights Reserved * You may copy and distribute this material as long as you do not alter it in any way, the content remains complete and you include this copyright notice.

It’s time to be speak up and be visible. We are each called to step up in our own way. Light workers are being called upon to work on the inner plains to bring in more light, tolerance, compassion, love and peace as we add our own light to the global Ascension process. Others might be called to take a more social activist role. Both types of actions are needed.

YOUR VOICE IS IMPORTANT!

Listen to how you are being called and draw on the courage of your inner warrior to answer that call. The time is NOW!

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Additional Opportunities to learn more about the Ascension process and the Divine Feminine and her message for contemporary women.

Circle with the Divine Feminine
Third Wednesdays
6:30 to 8:30 PM

Blossoming Path, 10227 Fair Oaks Blvd
Fair Oaks Village, CA

March 15, 2017 – Demeter and Persephone: The Myth of Death and Rebirth
Led by Joy Reichard, Founder IHN Circle (San Mateo), Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, author, teacher
$10 Love Donation

For more info and to register go here

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In Her Name Circle

Fourth Wednesdays
7 to 9:00 PM
Unitarian Universalist of San Mateo,
300 E. Santa Inez, San Mateo, CA 94401

March 24, 2017- Fifth Dimensional Consciousness: The World Is Awakening
Featuring Joy Reichard, Founder IHN Circle, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, author, teacher
$15 online at or $20 at the door
For more info and to register go here.

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If current times are creating worry and frustrations that are causing you to spend more time being anxious and depressed, then give Joy a call and ask for a 30-minute complimentary consultation to find out how you can start being more positive and happy. Contact Joy today by phone 415-819-9769 or email.

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Is There Wisdom in Anger?

So much is transpiring in the political arena that it is hard not to be swept up into the emotionally charged chaos. Personally I am finding it challenging to stay balanced with an open heart and open mind, to release anger and upset, and to stay centered. This is why I was so grateful to receive this email from my spiritual mentor, Terry Attwood. I felt her message was so helpful to me personally that I wanted to share it with all of you …

Terry’s Message: It is very important to realize when we are so upset about the current events going on in the country that we are in the ego.  It’s a signal to move to higher ground and use that energy to stay centered and take action from a base of non-attachment to our personal beliefs, but to come from the place of what is right.  So, what I have been doing is to keep in my mind that my protests are coming from a place that supports the truth of what this country is about… from the basic values that define America.  I am attaching a great writing (Buddhist) about this. – Terry

The Wisdom of Anger

 

“The buddhas are not just the love-and-light people we like to think they are. Of course, their enlightened mind is grounded in total peace, but in that open space compassion spontaneously arises. It has many manifestations. One is the pure energy of anger.

Anger is the power to say ‘no’. This is our natural reaction whenever we see someone suffer – we want to stop it. The buddhas say ‘no’ to the three poisons (greed, hatred and delusion) that drive injustice. They are angry about our suffering and they will happily destroy its causes. They aren’t angry at us. They’re angry for us.

… There are times when the compassionate thing is to destroy. To say “Stop!” to suffering. To say “Wake up!” to the ways people deceive themselves. To use the energy of anger to say “No!” to all that is selfish, exploitative, and unjust.

In its pure, awakened form, when it is not driven by ego, anger brings good to the world. In our personal lives, it helps us be honest about our own foibles and have the courage to help others see how they are damaging themselves. On a bigger scale, anger is the energy that inspires great movements for freedom and social justice, which we need so badly now. It is a vital part of every spiritual path, for before we can say yes to enlightenment, we must say no to the three poisons (greed, hatred and delusion).

The energy of anger is an inherent part of our nature-we can no more have ‘yes’ without ‘no’ than light without dark. So we need a way to work with the energy of anger so it doesn’t manifest as aggression, as well as methods to tap its inherent wisdom. We need a profound understanding of where aggression comes from, how it differs from anger, and a practical path to work with it. That path begins where all healing begins.”

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Creating Sacred Circle

Women love to gather with their friends and have done so since ancient times. Women are relational beings. That means that our relationships are important to us, especially the relationships we have with our circle sisters!

A women’s circle is a gathering of women who sit in a circle and meet on a regular basis to discuss shared concerns and to offer support and encouragement.

Greet old friends and make new ones
Relationships are important for women, and circles provide a natural way for women to gather and create a safe place to greet old friends and make new ones.  In circle women find the confidence to speak freely from the heart and know that they will be heard, if not always agreed with.

Opportunities for personal and collective growth

Group discussions generate new ideas and facilitate new ways of looking at old concerns. Women like to share their stories and experiences, as well as hear others share their experience and wisdom. Time devoted to silent process provides comfortable quiet moments while circle members reflect and sometimes wrestle with personal concerns.  Many times lost dreams are remembered, goals are affirmed, issues are resolved, or insights are materialized.  Circles create a safe place where women can develop close bonds with other women and feel supported.

Opportunities for transpersonal and spiritual growth 

A sacred circle is a gathering of women who wish to explore, express and deepen their understanding of spirituality. It differs from a support circle in that, while support and personal relationships do develop, the participants don’t concentrate their focus on personalities and their personal concerns, but instead focus on broader transpersonal and archetypal themes that affect people’s lives and the world.  These circles also offer women an opportunity to create sacred space in which to do ritual and ceremony.

Honoring the Divine Feminine and the divine spark within 

During sacred women’s circles we explore, define, and honor the feminine principle, explore broader issues of importance to ourselves and humanity, and celebrate the divine spark within each one of us and the Divine Feminine.  We learn about the wisdom of the different goddesses and holy women and how we can apply it to our lives today.

Learning and insights
Learning about the Divine Feminine provides us with insights, expanded awareness, and appreciation of what it means to be female.  This knowledge facilitates our personal growth as we learn to value our own divine nature within.  It teaches us how to have more functional relationships, to be present with our feelings, to honor our bodies and ourselves, to honor women’s life cycles, to live according to our personal values, and to find the strength and motivation to pursue our dreams and goals.  Sharing ritual and ceremony helps build community and strengthens our sisterhood with those who share a love for the Divine Feminine and all that is sacred.

Please join us

During sacred women’s circles women learn about the different goddess archetypes that can inform our lives, relationships, aspirations and goals.  We also share our life experiences, offer support, and deepen our connection with our circle sisters.  Members have an opportunity to experience the Divine Feminine during guided visualizations and to participate in rituals designed to help members internalize and make sacred their circle experience.  The time we share together is enjoyable, gratifying, and uplifting.

If you want to join a sacred women’s circle and live near San Mateo or in the Sacramento area then you are in luck because there is a sacred women’s circle nearby (see below). If you don’t live nearby, but want to create one in your community, then you can order a short book on how to create a sacred circle of your own.

Click here for more information on a sacred women’s circle in the Sacramento Area called “Circle with the Divine Feminine.”

Click here for more information on a sacred women’s circle in the San Mateo Area called “In Her Name Circle.”
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Tips for Staying Centered During Turbulent Times

2f894562-4450-4785-84e5-06f22aa0ee1aDaily each of us is becoming more aware of just how polarized our country has become. Some are applauding our national leaders’ actions; others are horrified and taking a stand by signing petitions, calling State and US Representatives, or are out there protesting. There are also many of us who are just upset, angry, fearful, depressed or anxious on either side of the deep political divide that is daily becoming even more polarized.

No matter what side you are on, these intense polarized states are harmful for you, your community and our nation because polarization knocks you off your center, interfering with your ability to think clearly, stay emotionally balanced, and to act with wisdom and compassion. All of these low vibrational feelings of fear, anger, rage and hate are feeding the mass collective consciousness. It doesn’t matter what your politics are: the negative vibrations feed into the same mass collective consciousness, and this has a negative effect on everyone.

All of this has become very personal because I’m feeling all of these emotions and turmoil myself. I’m trying to stay centered, but recently it has been very hard. That’s why I was grateful when my friend and spiritual mentor, Terry Attwood, shared these following tips from Wall-of-us Weekly Actions on how to stay centered when things get difficult. I needed these tips – and I thought you might benefit from them too.

I’ve re-worked some of the following suggestions with the intention of making them accessible to both sides of the divide that’s polarizing our nation. Please read them. They were prepared by a licensed therapist. We all need a little self-care right now. While the world around us may seem unpredictable, you still have the ability to ground yourself by building predictable and safe habits.

1) Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself breaks from ruminating about the actions of our national leaders and the people’s response about what is to come. Sit on the floor with your cat. Lie on the ground and look at the clouds. Or blast some music in your home and dance your butt off. If you don’t have that kind of time, or space, give yourself a minute to think of all your favorite movies, or songs, or the best kisses you’ve ever had. (I personally like this last one. I’ve had some great kissers in my life!)

2) Air your concerns. Talk to like-minded friends about your fears or worries. Make a pact that whenever something happens on the national platform, or someone says something seemingly insane, you can be each other’s sounding boards. Make a pact to not escalate into a heated, hate-filled discussion, but to listen and empathize.

3) Get physical. Walk, run, swim, play soccer, skate, or whatever suits you. Get out of your head and into the sensations of your body. As you exert energy, see if you can expel negativity that you are carrying from the latest news.

4) Use mindfulness techniques. Sit quietly and focus on your breathing. Slowly take in a deep breath, hold it, and then exhale very slowly. Try to relax your shoulders and muscles as you do this. Close your eyes and notice the thoughts, feelings, images, and bodily sensations that emerge. If you notice that your mind wanders, name what it’s wandered to (your shopping list, to do list, etc.), then see if you can redirect your focus back to your breath. Allow any emotions (for example: joy, sadness, fear, excitement) to be present without judgment. Let the feelings move through you. Return to your breath.

5) Be grateful. Every day talk to a friend or write down something(s) for which you are grateful. Being grateful is a way of having power. No one, not even our national leaders, or parents, or friends, or colleagues, or an angry populace, can take away our genuine gratitude.

6) Pray to your higher power and to the guides and masters who are working with our national leaders. Ask that our leaders be blessed with the wisdom, discernment, compassion, and insight to make the best decisions that will serve the highest good and be of the greatest benefit and joy for our nation, the people, humanity, and our great mother, the Earth.

I wish you balance, centering, discernment, inner peace, love and compassion as you walk your journey on this earth plane during these turbulent times.

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