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Are you experiencing a toxic relationship?

Are you experiencing a toxic relationship?

It might be a quarrelsome in-law or relative that you have to see on a regular basis. Or an intimidating boss that you report to. Or it might be a domineering co-worker who makes too many suggestions about how you should do your job, or a friend who offers way too much advice.

If you are struggling with a toxic relationship, then here is an article that you might find helpful that was recently published in Yes Magazine. It was shared with me by my friend Marty Maskall.

When a relationship is causing you stress and suffering, follow these five steps to find peace for yourself.

1. Accept that you are in a difficult situation, dealing with a very difficult relationship

Your choices here are fairly limited, and, strangely, acceptance is always the best choice. You can judge and criticize the other person, but that will probably make you feel tense and lonely. Alternately, you could nurse your anxiety and despair that you’ll never be able to get along with them, which will make you feel stressed and sad. You can definitely deny their existence or pretend that they aren’t bothering you. You can block their texts and emails, and avoid every situation where they’ll turn up.

These are all tactics of resistance, and they won’t protect you. These tactics will allow the other person to further embed themselves into your psyche.

What does work is to accept that your relationship with them is hard, and also that you are trying to make it less hard. This gentle acceptance does not mean that you are resigned to a life of misery, or that the situation will never get better. Maybe it will-and maybe it won’t. Accepting the reality of a difficult relationship allows us to soften. And this softening will open the door to your own compassion and wisdom.

Trust me: You are going to need those things.

2. The other person will probably tell you that you are the cause of all their bad feelings

This is not true. You are not responsible for their emotions. You never have been, and you never will be. Don’t take responsibility for their suffering; if you do, they will never have the opportunity to take responsibility for themselves.

3. Tell the truth

When you lie (perhaps to avoid upsetting them), you become complicit in the creation and maintenance of their reality, which is poisonous to you. For example, they might ask you if you forgot to invite them to a party. You can easily say yes, that it was a mistake that they didn’t get the Evite, and did they check their spam folder?

But lying is very stressful for human beings, maybe the most stressful thing. Lie detectors detect not lies, but the subconscious stress and fear that lying causes. This will not make the relationship less toxic.

So, instead, tell the truth. Be sure to tell them your truth instead of your judgment, or what you imagine to be true for other people. Don’t say “I didn’t invite you because it would stress Mom out too much to have you there” or “I didn’t invite you because you are a manipulative drama queen who will find some way to make the evening about you.”

Instead, tell them your truth: “When you are in my home, I feel jittery and nervous, and I can’t relax, so I didn’t invite you to the party. I’m sorry that I’ve hurt your feelings.”

It takes courage to tell the truth, because often it makes people angry. But they will probably be mad at you anyway, no matter what you do. They almost certainly won’t like the new, truth-telling you-and that will make them likely to avoid you in the future. This might be a good thing.

4. If you feel angry or afraid, bring your attention to your breath and do not speak (or write) to the person until you feel calm

It’s normal to want to defend yourself, but remember that anger and anxiety weaken you. Trust that soothing yourself is the only effective thing you can do right now. If you need to excuse yourself, go ahead and step out. Even if it is embarrassing or it leaves people hanging.

5. Have mercy

Anne Lamott defines mercy as radical kindness bolstered by forgiveness, and it allows us to alter a communication dynamic, even when we are interacting with someone mired in anger or fear or jealousy. We do this by offering them a gift from our heart. You probably won’t be able to get rid of your negative thoughts about them, and you won’t be able to change them, but you can make an effort to be a loving person. Can you buy them a cup of coffee? Can you hold space for their suffering? Can you send a loving-kindness meditation their way?

Forgiveness takes this kindness to a whole new level. I used to think I couldn’t really forgive someone who’d hurt me until they’d asked for forgiveness, preferably in the form of a moving and remorseful apology letter.

But I’ve learned that to heal ourselves we must forgive whether or not we’re asked for forgiveness, and whether or not the person is still hurting us. When we do, we feel happier and more peaceful. This means that you might need to forgive the other person at the end of every day-or, on bad days, every hour. Forgiveness is an ongoing practice, not a one-time deal.

When we find ways to show mercy to even the person who has cost us sleep and love and even our well-being, something miraculous happens. “When we manage a flash of mercy for someone we don’t like, especially a truly awful person, including ourselves,” Anne Lamott writes, “we experience a great spiritual moment, a new point of view that can make us gasp.”

Here’s the real miracle: Our mercy boomerangs back to us. When we show radical kindness, forgiveness, and acceptance-and when we tell the truth in even the most difficult relationship-we start to show ourselves those things. We realize that we can love and forgive and accept even the most terrible aspects of our own being, even if it is only for a moment. We start to show ourselves the truth, and this makes us feel free.
And, in my experience, this makes all we have suffered worth it.

This article was originally published by Greater Good. It was edited for YES! Magazine. 

Where are the Good Stewards?

Whether you are a Creationist or a Darwinist or anywhere in between, I think we can all agree that our planet’s very existence is a miracle. Our human evolution up to this moment in time is even more so. Life on Earth is a gift. Yet we aren’t taking very good care of it.

Is it our right to dominate the earth, as many of our forefathers thought? Or are we supposed to be the good stewards?

To be a steward is to be tasked with the job of looking after someone or something. At one time the abundance of the earth seemed limitless. Land was for the taking. Now humans have taken over, and pollution is everywhere! Even our oceans have become huge waste disposal sites, with waste washing up on shore or collecting in big swirls of garbage on the surface of the ocean.

This is why I believe our relationship to the earth should shift from “dominion over” to being the “Good Stewards” of the Earth.

Our relationship with Earth is so important that all religions put emphasis on looking after the planet. It is also a finely balanced relationship which is why, now that we are taking too much from the planet, environmental systems are starting to collapse. Even one of the world major religious leaders, Pope Francis, stated (paraphrased):

The human family has received from the Creator a common gift: nature. We are called to exercise a responsible stewardship over nature. Yet so often we are driven by greed and by the arrogance of dominion, possession, manipulation and exploitation … we do not preserve nature, nor do we respect it or consider it a gracious gift which we must care for and set at the service of our brothers and sisters, including future generations…

The notion of Stewardship is non-denominational, however. It applies to any and every person who lives, works and breathes upon the planet regardless of what religion they do, or do not, subscribe to.  It is a duty that we all have. There is no denying that we are going to have to make some sacrifices if we are to rectify the problems we have caused as a species. Yet that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy the beauty of nature or engage in the fun, joy or sense of adventure while we relearn how to live without negatively impacting our planet.

We all crave peace. We, humanity, have had our fill of war and the inhumanity and devastation it brings.  Peace and Stewardship go hand-in-hand, mutually influencing the other.  We cannot be Good Stewards of the planet if we are not first at peace within ourselves (the peaceful seek only to cherish, uplift and nurture, not destroy). What follows is the realization that a big part of creating a peaceful world also lies in valuing our relationship to nature and to each other. When we appreciate what the earth has to offer, and truly understand the inter-relationship of ourselves to nature and each other, then we know that an offense to another being, or to any part of our planet, is an offense to ourselves.

Despite all our material advances in living conditions we are, both in evolutionary and spiritual terms, still creatures of the Earth. We are still intimately connected to the energetic web of life. Our actions matter!  Our actions have consequences. We think we are smarter than the earth, but we are not. There is a popular saying: “God always forgives, we sometimes forgive, but when nature – creation – is mistreated, she never forgives!”

It’s time to rethink our relationship to our planet and to become the Good Stewards. It will take each one of us to be the change that will save our planet, and ourselves.

Everyone Is Psychic, Including YOU!

In last week’s article I wrote that everyone is psychic. I also gave you a list of 10 questions to ask yourself to determine if you were psychic. Did you answer YES to any of the questions?

Here is another way to know if you have any psychic abilities:

Your interest is already a sign!

When you show a particular interest in a specific topic it implies that you already have some awareness around it. Therefore you have a better chance to increase and develop those abilities. Curiosity, motivation and dedication are key for the development of proficiency in a particular subject!

Belief and Psychic Abilities

Another common theme related to this question is whether or not you need to “believe” in psychic powers. Some psychics and teachers of psychism propose that you don’t need to believe in it at all. As a matter of fact, approaching the subject with an open mind and with a healthy dose of skepticism can be very helpful in differentiating sensations from the physical body, imagination, and real psychic perception. This will allow you to validate the presence of your psychic abilities by way of your own experiences.

This approach requires you to accept that sometimes you simply will not know exactly what happened! This is to be expected. Don’t let it discourage you. What is important is that if you do have a new or unusual experience that you will learn how to identify when it’s the result of your psychic ability. You will gain more proficiency in this as you gather more experience.

The Stereotypical Image of Psychics

A lot of movies unfortunately portray the psychic ability as something obscure (in horror movies, for example), mystical (in some dramas and action movies), or pertaining to a person that is imbalanced or unstable (to avoid the word “crazy”), or that has some grave illness (a brain tumor), suffered an injury, had a near-death experience, or was hit by lightning.

These references give an inaccurate impression that psychic abilities only happens in odd circumstances, which is not the case at all. There are plenty of rational healthy people that have extraordinary psychic experiences. There are also people that apply a rational approach to their psychic abilities and apply those experiences for personal growth.

Different Types of Psychic Abilities

Psychic abilities are natural abilities, and as such some may be learned and some will happen spontaneously. Some may be good at one modality, for example, telepathy, but inexperienced in another, for example, clairvoyance. Here is a list of different psychic modalities:

Clairvoyant – the person who can clearly see non-physical realities or dimensions, surrounding energies, auras, physical people’s psychospheres, and non-physical consciousness.

Clairaudient – the person who can hear events occurring at long distance, in the physical world, and events occurring in non-physical dimensions.

Clairsensitive – the person who can feel the surrounding energies and non-physical consciousnesses. You can also train to feel all that touches (or could touch) your skin at a distance from it, by exteriorizing your sensitivity to the periphery of your *energosoma. Some Sensitives are also good at smelling non-physical fragrances.

Remote-viewer – the phenomenon of remote-viewing can also be technically called travelling clairvoyance. Therefore the remote-viewer can clearly see consciousnesses, places, and events happening at long distance, either in the physical dimension or in non-physical dimensions. The remote viewer can also describe to an audience, even with eyes open, what is being seen, what is happening in real-time.

Lucid Projector – astral traveller or sky walker, the person that leaves the physical body or soma sleeping in the physical dimension and explores with the psychosoma other physical or non-physical locations, thus gathering information the soma cannot obtain during the waking state.

Lucid dreamer – the person that achieves control of dreams, becomes increasingly more lucid, and can use the trigger(s) of his/her lucid dreams to further increase lucidity and induce conscious lucid projections (astral travelling).

Precognitor – the person that develops the capacity to gather information from a possible future. To be able to access information from the future means only that you can ‘read’ the possibilities. The future may or may not unfold according to these possibilities, because consciousness still has freewill and with it the capacity of choice that can change the future.

Retrocognitor – the person that acquires information from past lives or from the intervals between physical lives where the consciousness lived in non-physical dimensions.

Telepath – the person that can ‘read’ the information being transmitted mind-to-mind in physical or non-physical dimensions between the consciousnesses. The telepath is a receptor and a transmitter.

Intuitive – the person that can get an intimate clear knowledge of things, and grabs insights that escape the normal thought process. The immediate and instinctive represents a shortcut that can jump over reason thus adding to intelligence.

Medium – person that mediates and brings information from the non-physical dimensions to the physical dimension, I.e. talking to individuals who have passed on.

Telekinesist – the person that can move objects without touching them. Besides making objects move in your awakened state, people can do things like finding objects or making them disappear, or produce phenomena such as: combustion, electromagnetic, electrochemical, photogenic, mechanical, nuclear chemical, and sonorous effects.
*Energosoma – The energetic parabody of the human consciousness. The energosoma forms a junction between the soma and the psychosoma, acting as a point of connection through which consciential energy flows from one consciential vehicle to the other. Also referred to as holochakra.

Adapted from an article on Psychic Abilities by the International Academy of Consciousness

If you are curious about accessing your own “inner-seeing” abilities then please join us for:

What’s a Psychic & How Can You Access Your Own Inner Seeing?
A Powerful Discussion with 3 Clairvoyant Seers 
Hosted by
In Her Name Circle
7:00 PM
Friday, May 26, 2017
Unitarian Universalist Congregation
300 E. Santa Inez, San Mateo, CA 94401

Are Psychic Abilities Real? And How Do You Know if You Have Them?

Psychic abilities and psychic powers allow you to have perceptions beyond the physical body. They are part of the daily life of many. You will find countless references in books, movies and the internet for phenomena such as telepathy, clairvoyance, intuition and premonition, which are some types of non-physical (or extra-physical) perception. But how can you know if you have psychic abilities?

Many of us have thought about this question at some point in our lives. Maybe one day you find you have very clear intuition, another day you may experience déjà vú, or maybe you have experienced a lucid dream or even clairvoyance, possibly when you were younger.

How do we know if we are psychic?

So, after experiencing one or more of these things, how do you know if you have psychic abilities? The answer is really simple:

We are all psychic!

Some of us are more psychic than others. We all have different levels of natural psychic abilities, so we all possess the ability of being a proper psychic with the right training and techniques.

Psychic abilities are in fact a ‘kind of intelligence’; you learn them in the same way you learn how to play the piano or drive a car. You simply learn how to become psychic.

But it is important to understand there are people that have developed this intelligence much more than others; so, for them, it is simply a part of their lives. Others have an intention of further developing, increasing and/or controlling their abilities.

If you want to know if you already possess these types of abilities (or Parapsychic Intelligence), pay attention to occurrences as you go through life that might lead you to come to this conclusion.

Understanding Psychic Abilities

The first step is to understand the different ways that information can reach you. For instance, if you touch a metallic door knob you will get the sensation that it is cold. You perceive this via a physical sense.

On the other hand, have you ever been relaxing and felt a tingling sensation between your eyebrows that persists for more than a minute? It might have felt as if a feather was touching that area repeatedly when there was actually nothing physical touching that area. If so, then that might have been your psychic perception at work. In other words, you experienced a sensation that can’t be explained in physical terms. It was a non-physical body sensation that came from your energy body. The technical term is energosoma.

Another kind of psychic ability is the ability to see auras. We all have had the experience of looking at someone and being able to see the details of her face, hair, eyes, etc. This is the result of your eyes, brain, and all the physical parts of your body that are involved in physical sight.

If, however, you’ve also seen a bright envelope around the person which is about five centimeters thick along with brightness and colors around the head that extends up to 20 centimeters from the head, then this is psychic ability. You would be seeing her aura, something that is extra-physical and not accessible through your physical eyes.

You might wonder if this could simply be your imagination. The thing is, however, imagination is something you decide to put into work. It’s your will power at work. We can apply the same “tests” to differentiate physical and psychic perceptions.
In the metallic door knob example, you can ask yourself “am I imagining this psychic ability?” If after you verify this you continue to feel the coldness of the metal, then you know the physical perception is there.

In a psychic perception, you frequently need to be in a passive, receptive state, trying to “listen” or “receive” the perception without letting your expectation or will interfere. If you train this ability along with your physical perceptions, it will be easier for you to identify when you have a psychic perception.

Put your Psychic Abilities Through the Test:
10 Questions that Will Help You Assess Your Psychic Abilities
  1. Have you felt drained after meeting someone? Like you need to have a quick nap?
  2. Have you ever had a feeling that something is about to happen to someone around you only to find out it actually happened soon after?
  3. Have you ever visited a friend in his/her house (feeling great when arriving) but then left feeling really tired? (when there is no drinking or eating involved)
  4. Have you ever woken up remembering a very lucid dream or an out-of-body experience?
  5. Have you ever had a lucid out-of-body experience?
  6. How about clairvoyance? Have you ever had a flash and you were able to see other dimensions or people that have already passed away?
  7. Intuition: is it common to you? How relevant are your intuitions?
  8. Have you ever been able to predict the future?
  9. How about past events? Have you ever had a retrocognition or recollection of a previous life?
  10. Have you ever felt spontaneous vibration within your body when waking up or when falling asleep?
If you have answered ‘yes’ or agreed with any of these questions there are possibilities that you possess a good level of psychism, that’s how simple it is to tell if you possess psychic abilities.
Look for next week’s article for more information about and the different types of psychic abilities.

If you are curious about accessing your own “inner-seeing” abilities then please join us for:

What’s a Psychic & How Can You Access Your Own Inner Seeing?
A Powerful Discussion with 3
Clairvoyant Seers
Hosted by:
In Her Name Circle
7:00 PM
Friday, May 26, 2017
Unitarian Universalist Congregation
300 E. Santa Inez, San Mateo, CA 94401



Aphrodite and the Transforming Qualities of Self-Love

Most people know of Aphrodite as the goddess of love. She is that, but she’s also much more. She is the mistress of all kinds of love and passion – passion for art, a special interest, friendship, romantic love, and self-love.

The earliest myth of the birth of Aphrodite comes from Hesiod. Ouranos (Heaven) forbid his offspring with Gaia (Earth) to see light, the space between Heaven and Earth. One night when Heaven lay with Earth, their son, Chronos (Time), harvested Heaven’s genitals and threw them into the stormy sea. From this immortal flesh mixed with sea foam, rose the beautiful Aphrodite who inspired love in everyone and everything that came into her presence.

Aphrodite’s innocence – her virginity – was renewed on an annual basis. At her temple on Crete, her priestesses carried her statue into the sea for a ritual bathing. This act was a re-creation and restoration of Aphrodite’s virginity by the Graces. Once she was caught by her husband, Hephaestus, making love with her lover, Ares, God of War, and he humiliated her before the other gods. Aphrodite fled to Crete where the Graces washed and anointed her with ambrosial oil, restoring the goddess to her original state of purity and virginity.

This return to innocence is one of Aphrodite’s many gifts to you. Yes, you can be restored from the wounds of heartbreak, regret, guilt, and shame. Your past does not need to be your present. But for healing, you must first love and honor yourself.

The personal transformation that comes from self-care and self-love is another one of Aphrodite’s gifts. Many images depict her gazing at herself in a mirror, or bathing, or luxuriating with her nymphs. Some of us work-aholics and self-beraters might view her with contempt for being so self-indulgent. But there is a much deeper message in Aphrodite’s love for herself and her body. She appreciates what her body does for her and she loves to be adorned with beauty. For beauty is inspirational. It enables us to get a taste of the sublime.

Too often we are so hard on ourselves. The comments some of us make about ourselves we wouldn’t even say about someone we didn’t like. Too often we deprive ourselves by not getting enough sleep, or enough nourishing food, or time for pleasure and play. Instead we may work way too hard depriving ourselves of some of our basic needs.

Aphrodite’s message is that when we do take care of ourselves we feel so much better. Our souls are more joyous. We sleep better because we aren’t so stressed. Play and pleasure gives us joy, which dispels anxiety and worry. Our relationships are more rewarding because we aren’t grumpy, fatigued, and short tempered.

Self-love is taking care of ourselves so that we can show up as a happier, more joyous person. It actually enables us to be more effective and productive because we are more able to find joy and passion in what we do.

Aphrodite Meditation
This week, spend time for five minutes a day on the meditation below:

Relax. Choose an image of Aphrodite that appeals to you and gaze upon it. Visualize her energy flowing into you. Feel her divine energy of love and healing embrace you. Allow yourself to feel Joy.

If you are in the Sacramento area, then please join me for an evening of circling with Aphrodite. Listen to her myths that have messages for contemporary women and participate in a self-blessing ritual.

Wednesday, May 17, 2017, 6:30 – 8:30 pm
Blossoming Paths
10227 Fair Oaks Blvd, Fair Oaks, CA
For more info, click HERE 

Divine Feminine Rising

The Divine Feminine called me to do her work way back in 2003. Since 2005 I have been leading workshops and classes sharing what I have learned about the Divine Feminine. It thrills me to see the Divine Feminine moving into the collective consciousness on a wider scale. Thank you, Meg Benedict, for sharing in your article below how the rise of the Divine Feminine is depicted in the stars!

My last workshop, Awakening to Spiritual Consciousness, A Sacred Intensive for Emerging Women, focused on the Ascension process and how the Divine Feminine and contemporary women were central to the planetary Ascension process.

For more information about the Divine Feminine and the Ascension Process, check out the events that are posted below.

Hello (from Meg Benedict),

While Venus is moving retrograde from March 4th until April 15th, it will span 13º Aries back to 26º Pisces. Venus represents the sacred feminine and rules beauty, values, self-esteem, romantic love and deep healing. Since February, the 2 eclipses have triggered energetic clearings and healings, including any traces of shadow opposition from the body/heart/mind. Many came down with ‘kundalini flu’ as congested emotional trauma released into the Light.

This Sunday, March 12th there will be a Full Moon in the earth-bound sign of 22º Virgo. Combined with Venus Retro, you can expect to feel your feminine power rising within you and in the planetary collective. This is evident in growing public outrage, marches and demands for women’s rights, pay equality, female empowerment and respect. The Virgo Full Moon enhances your inner warrior to develop more self-worth, self-care and healing transformation.

The Virgo Full Moon also connects directly to the ongoing ‘Jupiter – Uranus opposition’ transit. You may experience sudden outbursts or reactions to perceived limitations and seek more personal freedom in your life. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself demanding liberation from all violations and setting healthy boundaries in all that you do.

The planetary Ascension depends on the return of the divine feminine. The native nations are leading the movement for clean water, air, food supply and human rights. The feminine power inspires more compassion and loving kindness for all life on the planet. The corruption and deception are being revealed to the public for cleansing and dissolution.

You are being prepared for the upcoming Equinox Stargate upgrades arriving on March 20th.  This month is a powerful threshold point into higher dimensional consciousness. As the out-dated energies are dropping away, you are rising into a unified state of Oneness!

Join other Light Warriors from around the world for the Equinox Stargate Global Activations on Monday, March 20th at 12pm PT. Register here.

Lovingly, Meg

Copyright (c) 2017 Meg Benedicte * All Rights Reserved * You may copy and distribute this material as long as you do not alter it in any way, the content remains complete and you include this copyright notice.

It’s time to be speak up and be visible. We are each called to step up in our own way. Light workers are being called upon to work on the inner plains to bring in more light, tolerance, compassion, love and peace as we add our own light to the global Ascension process. Others might be called to take a more social activist role. Both types of actions are needed.


Listen to how you are being called and draw on the courage of your inner warrior to answer that call. The time is NOW!


Additional Opportunities to learn more about the Ascension process and the Divine Feminine and her message for contemporary women.

Circle with the Divine Feminine
Third Wednesdays
6:30 to 8:30 PM

Blossoming Path, 10227 Fair Oaks Blvd
Fair Oaks Village, CA

March 15, 2017 – Demeter and Persephone: The Myth of Death and Rebirth
Led by Joy Reichard, Founder IHN Circle (San Mateo), Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, author, teacher
$10 Love Donation

For more info and to register go here


In Her Name Circle

Fourth Wednesdays
7 to 9:00 PM
Unitarian Universalist of San Mateo,
300 E. Santa Inez, San Mateo, CA 94401

March 24, 2017- Fifth Dimensional Consciousness: The World Is Awakening
Featuring Joy Reichard, Founder IHN Circle, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, author, teacher
$15 online at or $20 at the door
For more info and to register go here.


If current times are creating worry and frustrations that are causing you to spend more time being anxious and depressed, then give Joy a call and ask for a 30-minute complimentary consultation to find out how you can start being more positive and happy. Contact Joy today by phone 415-819-9769 or email.


Is There Wisdom in Anger?

So much is transpiring in the political arena that it is hard not to be swept up into the emotionally charged chaos. Personally I am finding it challenging to stay balanced with an open heart and open mind, to release anger and upset, and to stay centered. This is why I was so grateful to receive this email from my spiritual mentor, Terry Attwood. I felt her message was so helpful to me personally that I wanted to share it with all of you …

Terry’s Message: It is very important to realize when we are so upset about the current events going on in the country that we are in the ego.  It’s a signal to move to higher ground and use that energy to stay centered and take action from a base of non-attachment to our personal beliefs, but to come from the place of what is right.  So, what I have been doing is to keep in my mind that my protests are coming from a place that supports the truth of what this country is about… from the basic values that define America.  I am attaching a great writing (Buddhist) about this. – Terry

The Wisdom of Anger


“The buddhas are not just the love-and-light people we like to think they are. Of course, their enlightened mind is grounded in total peace, but in that open space compassion spontaneously arises. It has many manifestations. One is the pure energy of anger.

Anger is the power to say ‘no’. This is our natural reaction whenever we see someone suffer – we want to stop it. The buddhas say ‘no’ to the three poisons (greed, hatred and delusion) that drive injustice. They are angry about our suffering and they will happily destroy its causes. They aren’t angry at us. They’re angry for us.

… There are times when the compassionate thing is to destroy. To say “Stop!” to suffering. To say “Wake up!” to the ways people deceive themselves. To use the energy of anger to say “No!” to all that is selfish, exploitative, and unjust.

In its pure, awakened form, when it is not driven by ego, anger brings good to the world. In our personal lives, it helps us be honest about our own foibles and have the courage to help others see how they are damaging themselves. On a bigger scale, anger is the energy that inspires great movements for freedom and social justice, which we need so badly now. It is a vital part of every spiritual path, for before we can say yes to enlightenment, we must say no to the three poisons (greed, hatred and delusion).

The energy of anger is an inherent part of our nature-we can no more have ‘yes’ without ‘no’ than light without dark. So we need a way to work with the energy of anger so it doesn’t manifest as aggression, as well as methods to tap its inherent wisdom. We need a profound understanding of where aggression comes from, how it differs from anger, and a practical path to work with it. That path begins where all healing begins.”

If current times are creating worry and frustrations that are causing you to spend more time being anxious and depressed, then give Joy a call and ask for a 30-minute complimentary consultation to find out how you can start being more positive and happy. Contact Joy today by phone 415-819-9769 or email.

My Holiday Gift to You * Love and Light Visualization with Mother Mary

Mother Mary has been with me this last month as we approach both the celebration of Solstice, which celebrates the birth of the Divine Child, and Christmas which celebrates the birth of Jesus, the Christed One.

I was inspired to gift you with a “Love and Light Visualization with Mother Mary” which I created a few years ago in honor of her. You will find the link below.

Debates and discussions about the nature of Mother Mary have raged on for 2000 years until in 1965 when a Catholic Council called the Vatican II demoted Mary to little more than a Nazarene housewife, a country woman, a human vessel that served as the gestating container for a divine seed, and little more. Yet in the hearts of the people, as she has been depicted in art throughout the ages, there has been a longing to connect Mother Mary with the Great Mother whose compassion and mercy comforts, supports, and nurtures those who seek her out.

Mother Mary has filled the void of the Mother Goddess that I believe is central to our human collective unconscious. Since Paleolithic times, humans have honored the Great Mother. Within 500 years after the Divine birth of Jesus, as the cults of Isis, Cybele, Artemis and Diana dwindled along with the Roman Empire, the ancient goddess temples were rededicated to Mother Mary. Even the imagery of the older goddesses was passed on to Mary.

In addition, visitations of Mother Mary have been cited 21,000 in the last 1000 years. These visitations of the Blessed Mother strongly support the need of the Sacred Feminine principle that lives in our collective psyche.

The importance of Mary is more than her stature, her part in history, religion, or culture. It has to do with ones relationship with her – the ‘knowing’ experience of her compassion, mercy and grace. It is a felt experience that can’t be expressed with language or logic. Her image as Queen of Heaven and as the Great Mother Goddess archetype endures because it continues to persist in our collective human unconscious.

The Great Mother will prevail. She has survived 5000 years of patriarchy and 4000 years of the worship of the monotheistic male God. She will survive because she is part of the balance of nature. Nature always settles to its equilibrium.
The fulcrum under patriarchy pitched far to the right. It is now floating back to center so the divine feminine principle can re-take her rightful place beside the divine masculine principle.

The Great Mother is present in the image of Mary, the Mother of the Divine Child who brought Christ Consciousness to aid humanity in its evolution.
May this visualization with Mother Mary surround you with love, light and peace.

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Have a fabulous Holiday Season!
Many blessings,


Jennifer Berezan’s
Revised Version of the Hail Mary Rosary

From – She Carries Me

Holy Mother full of grace,
Power is with thee.
Blessed are you,
Queen of the Universe
And blessed is all of creation.
Holy Mother,  
Maker of all things,
Be with us now and always.


The Compassionate Spiritual Activist.

When I think about activism I’m taken back to my own days in the 60’s when protest marches were common place. I remember the angry fists raised in the air and loud voices over megaphones blasting out about injustices.

When I think of the spiritual activism I think of Martin Luther King and his non-violent protests that brought out the masses and lobbied for transformation and civil rights reform. I also think of Mother Teresa, that little body of fierce compassion and conviction who swayed the conscience of the powerful to support her causes.

Spiritual activism is not about religion, or even about being religious. But it is about being willing to take a part in creating change – and to play that part with the spirit of compassion, love, a sense of the interconnectedness of all beings, and the determination to stand on conviction.

In Buddhism, they hold sacred the tenets of compassion, mercy, altruism, and loving kindness, among others. According to some strains of Tibetan Buddhism, practitioners will meditate on Tara, a female deity, to develop these qualities. Believing that everyone can achieve enlightenment, Tibetan Buddhists claim that Tara can remove obstacles that get in the way of personal growth and the cultivation of activism.

Tara was said to be born from the tears of the Hindu Lord of Compassion, Avalokitesvara. He dedicated his existence to rescuing all humans from suffering. But eons ago it was a very bad age with people behaving terribly to one another. Just as he rescued one person, another would fall. He became frustrated and began banging his head against a wall from the futility of his efforts. Because he was blessed by the Buddha, instead of wounds or bruises, two large eyes emerged on the back of his head. From the eyes tears fell. From the tears emerged Green Tara and White Tara.

Green Tara pledged to help by removing obstacles from the path of humans so they could walk the path to enlightenment with greater ease. White Tara vowed to help humans by increasing their fortunes and extending their lives. Together they help Avolakitesvara making it easier for us humans to receive blessings and to achieve enlightenment.

These deities serve as models for us about the meaning of compassion and spiritual activism. They have the altruistic mindset of service, not for personal fame or aggrandizement, but because they care about our human condition. They want humans to live better lives so they in turn will become enlightened spiritual activists who work for the betterment of humanity. The Taras stay focused on the positive, on what they can do, continually helping us to overcome obstacles, especially our negativity, so we can envision a better world for all.

The Taras understand that all beings are interconnected. When one human achieves enlightenment and can live more in a spirit of compassion, then they have a positive influence on those they touch, raising the vibrations of people around them. As one of us becomes more compassionate and caring, then they demonstrate to others the power of compassion and the importance of standing up for your convictions.

Look at both Martin Luther King and Mother Theresa, two humans who strove for enlightenment, embraced compassion for their fellow beings, and pledged their lives to work towards their convictions. One human can inspire others and start a movement for peace, freedom and equality.

It’s also important to note that each Tara had their assigned tasks. They did not take on everything, like so many of us humans try to do. They chose selectively where to put their efforts rather than being all over the board. It’s important for us to also use wisdom and discernment when we select a cause to fight for. When we focus, we can apply 100% of our efforts and thus have a chance to make a difference. When we splinter and apply our efforts among multiple causes, which are all very important, we dilute our effort, and end up making minimal impact. This is an important truism for all of us to keep in mind.

Take time to reflect on the lessons from Green and White Tara. Become a spiritual activist; take a stand and make a difference. But come to your activism with an altruistic and compassionate heart. Remember to focus on the positive. Stand for what you are ‘for,’ not what you are ‘against,’ so your mindset can stay positive.

Always remember that we are all interconnected. What we are and what we do has an impact on those around us. Your bad mood can dampen the mood of others. When you are full of joy, it radiates to those around you lifting their moods. Finally, choose what you commit to with wisdom and discernment. Remember it is always better to under-commit and over-deliver than to over-commit than under-deliver.

If you, and I, can commit to these gems of wisdom, then we will have a chance to change the world – together!
This article was inspired by a blog posted in 2015 on

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The Tower and the Devil Part 2

In my last email I talked about the Devil card in the Tarot and how it kept showing up at a time when my whole life was breaking down (marriage, health, work, friendships). I was going through a massive transition that put me on a whole new life path.

Motherpeace Tarot Devil Card

Motherpeace Tarot Devil Card

The Devil card is the 15th Major Arcana card of the Tarot. It speaks to the shadow side of ourselves that is held in bondage to our addictions, greed, negativity, insecurities, self-doubts, jealousies, and fears (rejection, abandonment, not being good enough, not being loved, etc.). These shadow self-perceptions and beliefs keep us stuck in an old story that we tend to cycle in, even though we are desperate to escape.

The Tower

Motherpeace Tarot Tower Card

Motherpeace Tarot Tower Card

The Tower is the 16th Major Arcana card. It is an image of disruption and change. This disruption is generated by the battle inside you that is fighting the Devil, your own demons, to free yourself from that domination.

Vicki Noble likens this card to the great Hindu Goddess Kali Ma. She is a terribly ferocious looking goddess with a garland of skulls around her neck and a girdle of arms around her waist. She has four arms, is dark skinned, and splotches of blood stain her body. In one hand she carries a sword, another a pair of scissors, and in the third a bloodied head.

In the West, dark and black have been associated with fear, suffering, death and evil. Our fear of the dark Goddess is a projection of that association. In the Hindu world view, however, the dark color is associated with the sacredness of the earth and its female nature. Kali’s symbolism, far from being foreboding, is filled with important imagery for those seeking greater awareness.

  • Red – Kali often bears the color red because she is associated with the life force energy of our body, our blood, and to the fire of creativity.
  • Garland of heads – The garland of severed heads or skulls represents the letters of the Sanskrit alphabet. They symbolize the repository of knowledge and wisdom that is available to us.
  • Sword – The sword is the sword of wisdom with which she cuts the chains of our shadow beliefs that keep us cycling in the old stories.
  • Severed head – Symbolizes freeing ourselves from the negative, degrading stories of our subconscious so we can embrace the universal consciousness of the Divine Mother and Father and our own divinity within.
  • Waistband – The waistband of human arms symbolizes the necessity for performing good deeds, not out of co-dependency or wanting to feel self-important, but because caring for others and doing good deeds civilizes us, improves the condition of humanity, and opens our hearts to the flow of love.


Kali is that transformative energy of The Tower that can liberate us from the negative stories of our shadow selves. Drawing the Tower card signifies that we have an opportunity to confront our beliefs that no longer serve us so we can change our stories. It tells us we can face our shadow, that part of us that keeps us stuck in reactive and often unhelpful behaviors of jealousy, envy, greed, obsessiveness, anger, etc. When we face these inner demons, learn the stories behind them, and are willing to release them because they no longer fit into the life we want to lead, then we can step into a higher vibration where joy, satisfaction, fulfillment and wellbeing resides.

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