Do you want more money?
Have you been trying to bring in more money but just can’t seem to make it happen?
Did you know that your money story is tied to your parent’s money story?
In the past I had a lot of anxiety around money. Being a solo entrepreneur just heightened that anxiety. I finally realized the connection between my money story and my parent’s.
My father grew up during the depression. As a child he worked like an adult on his family’s farm. They experienced daily insufficiency and financial instability. When he became an adult he rebelled against his poverty mentality and used credit cards excessively. It wasn’t a good thing! Though with age he’s become much smarter about money, his childhood money story wounds still show up today.
My mother was also a child of the depression. When she was four her parents made her give back all her Christmas gifts so her family could pay off their debt. Her childhood taught her that she couldn’t depend on security, or a steady flow of money.
Both my parents suffer from scarcity mentality. There was never enough. We were always shopping for bargains. And we all carry deep-rooted feelings of not being good enough.
I’ve given names to some of these noisy inner voices. Maybe you will recognize them, or begin to give names to some of your own inner voices. I will also share some tips as to how I learned to quiet these voices and cultivate more positive ones.
Everybody loves a bargain, right? The problem is when you start to think of yourself as needing to BE a bargain. This mentality undermines your belief in your own self-worth; especially if you have a caretaking nature. Then you may feel a need to give your services away for free, or below value. This sabotages your abundance.
Bargain shoppers are really shopping for value. They want to get what they pay for and more. People will pay for value. You just need to embrace your true value.
Write down all the reasons for which people seek you out in your community. It can be something as simple as having a “compassionate ear.” This has great value because so many have lost the skill to truly listen. You might also tally up how much time and money you spent in acquiring your skills, experience, knowledge and training. You probably have invested a lot more in yourself than you realize.
Then take a look at this list and realize just how valuable you are. This is part of your worth to your community and to your clients. Own it and appreciate yourself. You are of great value! You are worth it!
The constant anxiety around money becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People and potential clients can sense anxiety. It has a repellent quality that deters people and potential clients from finding you.
Notice when you have physical symptoms of anxiety. In reality they are warning you that something is out of balance. Forcing your way through fears without respecting your own needs might only exacerbate the situation.
Take several deep breaths and quiet your mind. Then have a dialog with your anxiety and the underlying fear. When you get to the root of your fear, ask yourself if it’s really that bad. What’s the worst that could happen? Could you handle it?
Many times the monster that you don’t know is much more terrifying than the monster you do. Once you recognize what is really going on, then you will know how to deal with it.
She is fueled by fears and self-doubts. She rambles on with negative thoughts such as “I’m not good enough, bright enough, pretty enough.” Or “I’m too fat, too old, too scattered.” ” Or “I don’t have enough.” “I can’t.” “I shouldn’t.”
With so much energy fueling negative thoughts, you don’t have the mental capacity for the positive, creative, and innovative thoughts that create opportunities leading to abundance.
Pay attention to your thoughts so you can recognize your negative thought patterns. Once you can recognize them, then consciously choose to stop giving them so much attention. Switch the channel! Think about something more positive and productive. Remember, you are in charge of your thoughts! You just need to take the reins and get your mind to work for you, and not against you.
If you are struggling with your money story and self-worth, then give me a call to find out how I can help you change your money story so you can become more magnetic to a greater flow of abundance. Contact me today at 415-819-8769 or email me for a complementary 30-minute consultation.