I now know that the universe was trying to tell me that I was off my path. I needed to re-orient my direction, and the sooner the better! The more I resisted, the more the universe turned up the heat! I had things to do in this lifetime. Yet I had veered from my life’s purpose. The universe was determined that I get back on track, and made my life miserable until I listened.
New Years Resolutions are easy to make.
Keeping them is a totally different matter.
Too often by February many of you are back to the same old habits and behaviors. There are millions of pounds not lost, thousands of gym memberships lying fallow, and way too many cigarette packs being sold. Some of you may be thinking “why even bother with those New Years Resolutions this year.” In the battle of wills, you always seem to be on the losing side!
So, what if you knew that there was a way to keep those New Years Resolution.
Are you curious?
IT IS POSSIBLE to keep those resolutions and change your life! You just need a new strategy that will help you stay on track. Here are five tips on how you can make your New Years Resolutions stick.
It’s hard to make any kind of change if you only rely on your conscious, rational mind. You can have all the right reasons, but if you don’t engage your subconscious, then long lasting change will be difficult.
Think back to the last time you were able to make a significant change in your life. You may have daydreamed or
fantasized about what it would be like before you even took action to make that change.
Our habits and behaviors are stored in the subconscious, and the subconscious is resistant to change. Logic and rationale alone aren’t enough. You must communicate with your subconscious using both images and your imagination if you want change to happen. This is the very same stuff our dreams and fantasies are made of!
So when you are working on your New Years Resolutions, allow yourself to delve into your imagination! Take time to create vivid images of those things you want to change.
Empower Your Resolutions with Desire
Visualizing is important. But you also have to fuel your resolutions with the proper emotion. Incorporating emotions is like adding color to a black and white movie. It gives it depth and power which will help bring your intention into form.
For example, if you want to increase exercise because you think you should exercise more; your resolution will be short lived. This is because there’s no internal fuel to keep the desire alive through the boredom, distractions, and the busy lives we all seem to be leading. However, when you imagine how much better you will feel, how much more energy you will have, and how much better you’ll feel about yourself- then you’ll have the inner fire that will guarantee success.
The importance of passion
My grievance with The Secret is that it infers that manifesting simply involves visioning what you want, feeling the emotions of having it, and sitting around waiting for it to happen. WRONG! – Envisioning your intentions and fueling them with emotions is central to successful manifesting! But doing the work, taking action, is a must!
Self-discipline, however, is not about ‘banging you head against a wall.’ It does require, however, that you are committed to doing the work, being consistent, and following through.
This is where passion comes in. Doing the work can be grueling if you aren’t passionate about what you’re trying to accomplish. A runner can feel lukewarm about running, but will run anyway because they know it will help keep their weight down and build sustaining power.
On the other hand, a runner can feel passionate about running because they love the feel of strength in their legs, the speed of gliding over the land, and the ‘high’ of stretching their endurance to capacity. It’s the passion that fuels long lasting change. It’s like adding HD to a movie.
Achievability and believability
Sometimes our New Years Resolutions fail even though we visualize the outcome, feel the success of having it, and energize it with passion. This is because deep down inside we don’t believe it’s possible.
When this happens we’ve usually taken “the sky’s the limit” track, rather than making our resolution achievable and believable. Maybe you won’t win a triathlon. But, maybe you can find a running buddy who inspires you to get out and run several times a week. Maybe you can’t run five or ten miles, but you can start with a mile or two.
Doing what is believable and achievable is enough. It helps you overcome the self-defeating thoughts of “I’m not good enough so why even try.”
Implementing new behaviors can bring up a lot of emotions. Believe it or not, there is a part of us that assumes keeping everything the same is in our best interest. So even when you really want to change, you may feel tired, bored with the effort, irritated because you aren’t doing it right, or it’s taking too long, or you may even feel anxious. These are resistances, and they are normal. But they don’t need to stop your progress!
Right now I’m on my fourth day of a green smoothie cleanse. It was easy to think about doing the cleanse and to plan, shop and make the first days’ worth of smoothies. Now that I’m into the fourth day I’m already having fantasies of grilled steak, a Starbuck’s latte, or some hot sweet potato French fries. But I hang on to the memory of
how hard it was to zip up my favorite pants, and how great I’m going to feel when I can zip them up again with comfort and ease. Then I down another smoothie with a smile!
Cravings, resistance, negative self-talk, it’s all going to happen when you’re trying to make a change. So when you have these thoughts or feelings, just acknowledge them as old behaviors and habits. Then focus on how good you’re going to feel when you achieve you goal, or succeed at putting into action your new behavior or habit. I already know how good I’m going to feel when I can zip up those pants again! That’s what is keeping me on track.
By implementing these five simple tips you’ll find that you can keep those New Year’s Resolutions with greater resolve. Remember to:
- Empower with desire
- Infuse with passion
- Make your resolution achievable and believable
- Stay positive
If you find that you still lack the motivation to accomplish your goals, please contact me for a free 30-minute consultation to see how transformational life coaching with hypnotherapy can help you achieve success in 2016.
Call Joy at 415-819-8769 or email Joy@joyreichard.com today.
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There’s a lot of hustle and bustle at this time of the year. With my sons, nieces and nephews busy producing the next generation, my shopping list has been growing at a rapid rate. I love shopping for the little ones, but I’ve reached the point where the holiday crowds have become overwhelming!
Fortunately, I’ve learned to make the holiday season manageable by shopping early, and doing some of it online. I’m happy to say that I just purchased the last gift! Now I can relax and enjoy the rest of the holidays with that biggest of the “to do’s” on my list accomplished.
With that big “To Do” out of the way, I can now focus on the most important activity of this time of the year. For me, it’s all about reflection, assessment, wrapping up of the year, and gestating ideas for the New Year. Now I’m reviewing what I’ve accomplished this year and am assessing if there is anything else I want to complete before year end. Then I’ll begin setting goals and objectives for next year. Yep! I’m already making plans for 2016.
As busy as the Holidays are, taking time out for reflection and assessment helps me end the year with a sense of completion. It helps me stay grounded and focused during the whirlwind of activity and fun with family and friends. Then when New Year’s Eve hits I can truly celebrate because I’ve already been gestating my goals and objectives. I know where I’m heading and what I need to do in 2016.
I highly recommend this introspective practice of making plans for the New Year. The benefits you reap are much greater than the time it takes!
If you’re curious about the process, I’d love to share what was given to me by one of my mentors.
First, find some quiet time where you do nothing but reflect and think. For me, the best time is during meditation. You, however, might prefer a leisurely walk along the beach or hiking trail, or sitting quietly with a latte at a local coffee shop. Whatever works for you is great, but the idea is to set aside time to be alone with your thoughts.
Then let your mind float over what you might want to complete this year and fantasize about what you’d like to do next year. I’m reaching a point where if something feels too hard, or like too much work, I pass on it. Instead it’s much better to let your mind float to those things you feel excited and enthusiastic about. You can tell what they are because you’ll start feeling energized and the juices will start flowing! I find that when I reach this stage I can’t wait until I can sit down at my computer, or with pen and paper, and start jotting down ideas!
This leads to the third step in the process. Now it’s time to start putting those goals, projects and ideas on paper. Don’t worry about the order or time frame. At this point just do a ‘brain dump.’ Sometimes you might get it all down at once. Other times you might find that you’re updating, revising, expanding, and perhaps contracting your list over several days. It’s all good. Your primary focus is to get down all the ideas and goals that feel exciting and energizing.
Once you have all your ideas down, then start organizing them into goals and the steps, or objectives, that need to be completed in order to achieve them. They should be S.M.A.R.T. goals.
What? What’s a S.M.A.R.T. goal?
Specific – This means you should have a clear understanding of what it is that you will do and what the end product will look like. For example, last year my goal was to do a weekly e-zine providing useful information to my following. A weekly e-zine is a specific goal, and the e-zine itself is the end product.
Measurable w/ Measurement – This means you should have some idea as to whether you will meet the goal or not. For example, I’ve been about 75% successful in getting out a weekly e-zine. Considering I’m human and have a busy schedule, I feel pretty good about my success rate for the first year of trying to execute this kind of an aggressive goal.
Achievable – This means that there is a high probability that you can be successful at achieving your goal. For example, since I’ve been about 75% successful in getting out a weekly e-zine, then a weekly e-zine was an achievable goal.
Relevant – This means that your goal should serve a purpose, or have an impact. For example, my purpose was to share useful information. Frequently I receive positive feedback from my readers which validates that my e-zine has relevance.
Time-Oriented – This means, “When will you achieve this goal? What are the start and end dates?” For example, the time-bound goal for my e-zine was ‘weekly.’
Evaluating your goals to make sure they are ‘S.M.A.R.T.’ will help you stay practical and reasonable about what you can accomplish so you don’t fall victim to overwhelm and burn out, get sick, or give up!
Once you’ve evaluated your goals, then start organizing them into 3, 6, 9, and 12 month goals.
Once you have your quarterly goals identified, then it’s time to begin identifying and scheduling weekly steps or objectives. At this stage I tend to drill down the weekly objectives for just 3 months at a time. I always keep the larger perspective in mind, but I’ve found that ‘life happens while we’re busy making plans to do something else.’
Goals and objectives often need to be fine-tuned and re-evaluated as the year progresses. One year I had knee surgery, another year I fell in love (not a good excuse for getting knocked off track, but I had fun!), and another year the recession hit and I had to change course mid-stream to adapt to the new economic situation . It’s important to keep some flexibility in your schedule so you can adapt and re-assess as needed.
Now, schedule a time to review your goals and objectives weekly. This will help you stay on track with the smaller objectives so you can hit your targeted big goals in a timely manner. Mondays are a great day to do this. It’s the first day of the week. A quick review of what’s on your schedule on Mondays will help you stay on track so you can have a productive week, and a prosperous year!
With everything else that you have on your schedule, I can already hear many of you groaning about having one more thing to do! But I promise you, if you take time to do this, not only will you complete this year on a high, but you also will ensure that you have a more successful, prosperous, and happier New Year.
Next week I will be giving tips on how to manifest for the New Year, so stay tuned.
If setting your goals and objectives for the New Year feels too overwhelming, then give me a call and schedule a complimentary 30-minute consultation to find out how I can help you get organized and on track for a prosperous New Year. Call Joy at 415-819-8769 or email me today!
The Holidays are here! It’s the most wonderful time of the year… well, not for everyone.
The happiness and close family connections of others during the Holidays can serve as a painful reminder of the happiness and love that may be lacking in some of our own lives. The month of December can be a particularly difficult time of year for those dealing with family conflict, loss, break-ups, divorce, loneliness and mental health issues.
For those of you who feel sad during this time of year, here are some of the risk factors of holiday depression, and how you can avoid them.
Hoping for a picture-perfect White Christmas holiday is setting yourself up – not only for disappointment, but potentially for depression as well.
All too often people anticipate or fantasize about the holiday that you would see on TV. Often it’s never exactly as people anticipate and, sadly, it’s often disappointing. This can be especially true when there’s strife within families. It can blow out of proportion during the holidays.
It’s important to manage expectations during the holidays and not hope for things to be perfect. If holidays tend to be a time of conflict in your family, or you’ve recently experienced the loss of a loved one, putting pressure on your family to all get along or expecting yourself to be cheerful could lead to disappointment and additional anxiety.
During the holidays take stock of what you can be grateful for. Gratitude is the best antidote for the blues. And, fortunately, the Holidays don’t last forever. Soon it will be January and we can all start fresh in the New Year.
At the holidays, the pressure of trying to do everything — planning the perfect holiday decorations, dinner or party; or making it home to be with family; or saying yes to every event; or meeting those year-end deadlines that could be a killer at any time of the year — can be enough to send into overwhelm the calmest and most organized individual. And if you’re already prone to anxiety and depression, stress, not to mention lack of sleep, all of this can wreak havoc on your mood.
A heightened pressure and fear of not getting everything done is one of the most common triggers for the holiday blues.
Perfectionism, especially during the Holidays, puts unbearable stress on well-meaning hostesses, friends, families, and partners. Unfortunately, many people feel they just can’t do the right thing. Instead of enjoying the festivities they worry that their family members or guests are always disappointed in them for things not being just so!
At this time of year our attention often turns to what we don’t have rather than what we do – and for good reason! The season of non-stop shopping is almost here.
Before we head to the mall, it would do our souls good to give ourselves a reality check – by not only counting our blessings, but by focusing on them. Money will be spent on many things in the next few weeks, but it can’t buy the most important gifts: good health, a loving relationship, close family ties, caring friends and community, the fulfillment of creative expression and inner peace.
Let’s make a commitment to do the holidays differently this year. I know it’s good for the economy for consumers to madly spend money. It fuels our capitalistic system. But few of us really need more stuff! Most of our closets, drawers, and garages are already stuffed with things. Too many things!
Sadly it only takes an hour to open all the presents bought during the 4 week holiday spending spree. Hours of shopping for an hour of surprise and pleasure! Does this really make sense?
So why not do things a bit differently this year? We can scale down the Holiday spending splurge. We can hold on to those Thanksgiving feelings of gratitude a bit longer by generously reaching out to those around us with feelings of well-being, tolerance and compassion.
If you long to connect with others who want to express gratitude, then please join us for the In Her Name Circle Annual November Gratitude Potluck.
300 E. Santa Inez, San Mateo, CA 94401
Bring a favorite dish and share your gratitude with other sacred women who honor the Divine Feminine. No entrance fee but a collection will be taken for the Second Harvest Food Bank.
Ever felt like you were getting shot down in the office…by other women?
Talk about the unkindest act of all.
To succeed, many of my corporate clients have been working hard to become more like men – tough, competitive, driven. For men this style obviously works. There’s a reason the “old boys club” has been around so long.
There is a big difference, though, in how men and women play the competitive game. Men dwell mostly in their heads and are less ruled by emotions. They like to compete – be the top dog – yet they don’t personalize the battle. They go out for drinks after a heated conference room battle and hash out the latest ball game like the best of friends.
A women’s cultural and natural inclination is to form circles of collaboration where we can support, listen to, and encourage one another. As a result, when we start throwing punches like the boys, there’s an internal cost. It’s hard to divorce ourselves from our feelings and stay in our heads. And in an effort to stay one-up, the cost can mean keeping other women down.
So what’s the solution? One is for women to build on what comes naturally: circles of collaboration. Artemis, the Greek Goddess of the Hunt, refused to follow the traditional female role of wife and mother. Instead she asked her father, Zeus, for a bow and arrow so she could roam free in the woods with her circle of nymphs. Artemis and the nymphs were self-sufficient, hunting and supporting each other. They created a circle of collaboration.
There is a growing tradition of female mentoring in US corporations. There just isn’t enough of it YET! Are we really too busy or too competitive to stop and help one another through the ranks? Mentoring should be the type of collaboration women can embrace. I know this is happening in some of the younger newer and savvier companies, but we still have a long way to go in the larger more male dominated corporations.
If you feel you are not getting the support and encouragement you need from other women, then I invite you to visit one of our In Her Name Circles. We are an open community of women who honor each other and the Feminine Divine, as well as the Masculine.
- build nurturing relationships
- encourage self-expression
- share feminine wisdom
- explore topics that are of concern for women
- encourage personal growth and exploration
- support the empowerment of women
- ignite the spark of the divine within
- connect more deeply to the Divine that is Feminine
In Greek mythology, Aphrodite is the Goddess of Love and Passion. In the later versions of her myth, which tend to be more patriarchal in tone, Aphrodite is the daughter of Zeus and Dione (a Titan and the original oracular Goddess of Dodona). In these myths she’s often portrayed as the wanton, vain, ill tempered and easily offended Goddess of Love. She is the adulteress who has a long-term affair with the alternately courageous and cowardly God of War, Ares. With Ares she has three children: a girl, Harmony, and two boys, Fear and Terror.
In the earlier myths of Aphrodite, however, she is envisioned as the very act of love, which the animals and the nature of humanity experience as divine – when life sparkles with beauty and joy.
Homer sings of Aphrodite as being surrounded by the Graces – Joyous, Brilliance and Flowering – who weave her robes, and plait her a crown of violets. When she walks, flowers spring up beneath her feet; she is the essence of fertility! Desire and love follow her because her presence inspires longing and the yearning to connect intimately with joyful and sensual coupling, bringing fertility to the world.
The early Greeks referred to Aphrodite as the Golden One, the Lover of Laughter, as well as the Goddess of Love. As the Goddess of Love she was able to transform the customs of the world in order to make humans more civilized and more loving. She was said to send the Loves into the Courts of Wisdom so that, through love, more good could manifest in the world.
In later patriarchal Greek mythology, it was said that because of Aphrodite’s great beauty the gods feared that desire for her would inspire jealousy among them and create discord, possibly war. Therefore, Zeus married her to Hephaestus, the ugly deformed fire smith of the Gods, who was not viewed as a threat. Aphrodite, who was a free spirit and the essence of love and beauty, simply resisted the chains that were meant to subdue her. This had a negative effect on her reputation. Thus she was labeled as wanton and vain.
History, through patriarchal mythology, remembers her as Aphrodite Pandemos, or Aphrodite of the people. In her more earthy aspect she inspired sexual love and ruled over the festival of Aphrodisia, which celebrated the fertility of the Goddess, the people, the festivities and the sacred offerings of sexual favors.
Aphrodite, however, is also Aphrodite Ourania, or Heavenly Aphrodite, Queen of Heaven. She was identified as the comprehensive personification of all aspects of love. Love for humankind, for ideas, for the animals and plants, for the earth mother, for all the things for which we are passionate, for love of beauty, and the artistic representation of beauty and the human spirit.
We would benefit from a more expansive view of Aphrodite. By welcoming her into our hearts, we could expand our understanding of the true nature of love. For when we love with an open heart, when we embrace beauty, when we live our passions and express them with love in our hearts, there is no room for the rape of the planet, or of women, or of countries, or of each other. There is no desire to exploit, to dominate, to destroy. If we are truly living expressions of love and beauty, as is Aphrodite, then life sparkles with beauty and joy, and we humans again experience love as divine.
I encourage you to reflect on the deeper truth of Aphrodite. Ask her to bring more love and beauty into your life. When you are filled with love and beauty you will overflow, thus allowing them to stream out into the world, making the world a better place. What the world needs now is LOVE!
If you have trouble experiencing the love and beauty that surrounds you, then please take advantage of my 30-minute complimentary consultation and find out how you can create a more loving and joyful life for yourself. Contact me TODAY! 415-819-8769 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Have you ever struggled with a decision?
Have you been so paralyzed by difficult choices that you end up doing nothing?
Of course you have! We all have. Especially in today’s world because we are all confronted with way too many options!
I recently struggled with a decision. I was about to take action on something, but paused just long enough to realize it just might be motivated by my Aries impulsiveness. It’s gotten me in trouble before, big time! I didn’t want to make another decision that was going to end up in a lot of emotional pain…again! So, I called a friend. Sure enough, she told me it was a stupid idea. She saved me from making a costly mistake. (This is why we need our girlfriends – especially the ones who’ll tell you ‘like it is,’ and won’t pussy-foot around being nice!)
In reality, I already knew it was a bad idea. That’s why I hesitated. If it had been a good idea, I would have felt a sense of certainty. I would have felt pleased and maybe even felt a sense of peace about the decision. Instead I felt enough caution to call a friend. I could have saved myself the phone call if I had paid attention to what I was feeling.
Our emotions are our friend. They are our internal alert system that lets us know what is good, or bad, for us. They are the barometer of what is going on inside. The challenge we all face, however, is that we are taught in our society that emotions are to be suspect. They can’t be trusted. They pull you off kilter. It’s better to keep you emotions in check and be ruled by your ‘mind.’
This is partially true. Our ‘mind’ is a great tool for analysis – for evaluating both sides of the argument. It helps us weigh facts and make practical decisions. However, practical decisions are not always the best decisions. I once made a career decision based on what I thought would provide the best financial security for our household. What I really wanted to do, however, was to take another more interesting, but lower paying, position. I have never been unhappier in any job in my life! The decision was practical and logical, but I was miserable. I quit 6 months later! I had made the mistake of not taking my emotions into consideration.
Our emotions are our internal alert system. When we are angry, we’re being alerted that someone might be taking advantage of us, or treating us poorly. When we are fearful, we’re being warned to pay attention, danger may lie ahead. If we are edgy, nervous, or secretive about our actions, then we’re about to do something that isn’t in our best interest. When we feel pleasure, joy, or a sense of peace, our emotions are letting us know that whatever we are doing is a positive thing. Embrace it!
When we are busy thinking or worrying our way through a decision, we drown out our inner wisdom which is linked to our emotional alert system. Worrying is a waste of time and confuses the matter. Instead, just grow calm and let your mind quiet down.
Once you are more relaxed, think about one choice you are facing. Listen – not to your mind running analysis – but instead, pay attention to what you are feeling in your body. Just notice your feelings. Then, one by one, weigh your other options. Take notes if you must, but just pay attention to your feelings.
If you feel anxious, nervous, pressured, burdened, fearful, distressed, cautious, or unease of any kind, then that choice may not be the best decision. If you feel calm, relaxed, a sense of ease or contentment, or even relief and/or happiness, then most likely this is the better course of action. Sometimes your choice will be the one that makes you feel less distress… or more joy.
I’m not advising that you ignore the practical elements needed to make a good decision. I am suggesting, however, that by accessing your inner wisdom and paying attention to your emotional reactions, you will be able to make better decisions that will end up being for your highest good and greatest joy.
If you are confused or feel uneasy about the decisions and choices you have made, or are about to make, please give me a call today and requests a 30-minute complimentary consultation. Call Joy 415-819-8769 or email me.
As children we buy into the beliefs of our parents. Sometimes those beliefs can be real downers such as: “life never promised you a rose garden,” or “you only get ahead from hard work and effort,” or “I’m always waiting for the other shoe to fall,” or “bad things always happen to us.”
In my family, the belief was the ‘hard work and effort’ litany of good German stock immigrants. Sure enough, a large part of my life has been hard work and effort, not because of the validity of that belief, but because I bought into that belief.
I had a revelation several years ago that, “life’s lessons can be learned with ease and grace.” I’ve been reflecting on that thought and, slowly, it has been integrating into my belief system. The result? … My life has gotten easier and more joyful.
Revelations are messages from your Inner Wisdom which is directly connected to the highest source of consciousness in the universe. Some might call this consciousness Higher Power, God, Goddess, the Divine, The All That Is. The Divine communicates to us through our Inner Wisdom, which is sometimes called the Higher Self or the Wise Mind.
One way you can actively engage your Inner Wisdom is to stop and take a step back when you are faced with a challenging situation. Then you can view the situation from a larger perspective. Going through two divorces and raising two sons (who, though awesome men now of whom I’m very proud, were more than a bit of a handful as teen agers) was tough! At that time, life was pretty miserable. I thought life was nothing but drama, pain, and struggle.
Eventually, I was able to step back and view my life from the big picture. What I saw was not a wretched dead-beat drama-queen, but a woman who faced many difficult challenges, including her own vulnerabilities and character flaws, from which she learned invaluable life lessons. It was a time of huge personal and spiritual growth. Now I not only draw on my training, education and skills when I work with my clients or mentor women in my group work, but I also have a vast storehouse of life experience and understanding from which to tap into. My life was not just a miserable existence; it was my training ground preparing me for my life’s work.
I’ve come to realize that we didn’t incarnate to carouse in the “Rose Garden.” We came here to learn some pretty important lessons during our embodied walk upon this earth-plane. You can learn those lessons with a lot more ease and grace, however, if you take time to stop and rest. Give yourself some quiet time to reflect and allow your Inner Wisdom to come through. This will enable you to step back and ask the serious questions of “Why is this happening?” Be honest with yourself as you search within for the answers. Then you can reap the reward – the gold nugget – the lessons you can learn from your experience.
Look for my article next week on “Accessing Your Inner Wisdom Part Three” in which I will share more tips me on how to actively engage with your Inner Wisdom to enhance your life.
Do you feel as if you’re constantly running from one thing to the next?
Are you too busy to even make that important “To-Do” list?
Do feel torn between the many choices and decisions you must make?
Then you’re probably so caught up in the immediate minutia of your life that you aren’t taking the necessary time needed to step back and get the bigger picture. When you can see the bigger picture of your life, then everything begins to make sense. The non-essentials naturally begin to fall away and you can focus on what truly matters.
The earth plane has been called “dense. ” It’s as if we live under a veil of unknowing. Therefore we tend to operate ‘blind,’ taking action – or not – hoping all the time that we are making the best move.
Once in a while, however, the veil lifts and we have one of those “Ah Ha” revelations – those moments of insight when the pieces start falling into place, completing the puzzle that’s confounded us for days, weeks, sometimes even months. Sometimes we receive greater understanding of a situation, or a person, or the “big picture” of our life, or even of the universe. This is your inner wisdom speaking to you.
Treasure these moments of revelations! Everything becomes clearer when we have them. Don’t you wish you could have them more often? The truth is, you can! Your inner wisdom is available to you whenever you need it.
Our society is based on “doing,” “results,” and “productivity.” Too little value is placed on taking time to “be” – to slow down and go into silence. This is when our inner wisdom can flow through the veil of “not-knowing” into our consciousness.
Let’s face it, though. We’re all too busy – so busy we’re often hyped up and can’t slow down. When we have a quiet moment, instead of connecting with our inner wisdom, we grab our cell phones to see what tidbit of information or connection it has for us. We hardly ever let our minds just coast.
Thomas Edison, one of America’s greatest inventors, knew the value of quiet moments. He frequently took “little naps.” Sometimes, when he was challenged with one of his inventions, he would rock in his rocking chair with ball-bearings in his hand. When he drifted off the ball-bearings would drop on the floor and wake him up. That moment of lucid thought before falling asleep often generated a brilliant idea, or the solution to the problem he was contemplating. These are moments of revelation!
You can have those moments too. It just means slowing down, letting yourself daydream, spend quiet moments looking at the sunset, or a beautiful view, or taking a quiet walk in nature. It means taking moments to relax without the TV, the cell phone, the iPad, or the computer. Just sit in silence!
A great way to create space for silence is to set aside 5 to 20 minutes a day. Just sit quietly taking deep slow breaths. The only thing you do is follow your breathing. If your mind is busy, you can try silently saying a word or phrase such as “peace,” “letting go,” “serenity,” or the Sanskrit word “Om.” If your mind strays, just pull it back to focusing on your breath. This practice actually strengthens your mind and improves concentration and focus.
When we quiet our body and let our minds free float, not only do we give ourselves valuable time to de-stress, but we also begin to let our inner wisdom flow into our consciousness for revelations.
After you become accustomed to sitting in silence, you’ll find that your inner wisdom will begin to offer up insight, help with decisions, and strengthen inner resources so you can confront life’s many challenges with greater calm and clarity.
Look for my article next week on “Accessing Your Inner Wisdom Part Two” in which I will share tips on how to actively engage with your inner wisdom to enhance your life.
If the busyness and stress of your life is depriving you of the well-being and happiness you deserve, please give me a call today and requests a 30-minute complimentary consultation. Call Joy 415-819-8769 or email me.