“Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing can make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person can make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.” – Ralph Marston
This quote hit a chord with me. At one time I was going through a tough time that mired me in negativity. I was so negative that I was literally toxic, polluting everything that I came in contact with. Then I had an awakening and realized that the negativity was not happening to me, but I was creating it. Making a decision to change my attitude and strive for a more positive attitude changed my life for the better.
If you are going through a tough time, remember that you always have a choice no matter what the circumstance may be. And the choice is this:
You can either choose to let worry and upset fester at the expense of your life and well-being. Or, you can choose to see your situation in perspective, stay positive, and let go of anxiety and apprehension.
Sounds good, but how do you withstand those huge waves of negativity, let alone stay positive under the weight of overwhelming challenges? Here are a few suggestions to consider:
- Quit being a victim. Unfortunately, it’s seems easier to assume the role of a victim during tough times rather than taking responsibilities for yourself. By doing so, however, you will only prolong your suffering, and you might even put off people who may be able to help you. Letting go of the victim label also frees you from resentment and bitterness which can squash the creative energies you need to get out of the mess.
- Take stock with meditation. Meditate on what really happened and your response to the crisis. Learn to see the situation for what it really is. Begin by practicing breathing meditation, and then ask yourself: Take time to also contemplate on the nature of any prior crises. This will help you realize that that each challenge has a distinct beginning and end, and may even exhibit a cyclical trend. This can take some of the sting out of your current crisis.
“What has really happened in spite of what has been reported? Are my fears and worries real or imaginary? If they are real, what can I do about them?”
Take time to also contemplate on the nature of any prior crises. This will help you realize that that each challenge has a distinct beginning and end, and may even exhibit a cyclical trend. This can take some of the sting out of your current crisis.
- Focus on the positives. No matter how dire a situation may be, there are always some positives you can find in it. It is our unwillingness to look for them that blinds us to the brighter sides. One of my friends, Aaron Parnell, always tries to see what good thing can come out of any challenge or crisis he has faced. And he’s always found something good. It’s helped him to stay positive during some difficult situations. I’ve started modeling this behavior in my own life which has resulted in my coming up with some amazing insights and an overall more positive frame of mind.
- Give thanks. As you learn how to seek out the positives in every situation, then you can give thanks for the current situation as well as the things that you already have. For one, things could be much worse! It’s not always easy to be thankful in the face of a serious challenge. But focusing on what you do have, however, instead of what you’ve lost, will put you in a better position to solve any immediate problem rather than wasting time wallowing in worry and self-pity.
- Reach out to others. Do you know of people who are suffering because of some crisis? Some may have lost their jobs; or have suffered huge loss; or have a serious illness, or have a loved one who is seriously ill; or maybe there was a death in the family. Talk to them, listen compassionately, and if it is within your ability and means, offer your help, however small your offer may be. Helping others who are less fortunate than you also helps you to put things in perspective. And who knows, they may be the ones who are able to lend you a helping hand when the tables are turned at some point in the future.
There is no denying it; we are going through some challenging times that are affecting many of us personally, nationally and globally. Some are finding it hard to stay positive and cope. Next week I will offer more tips for staying positive during tough times.
… Adapted from 10 Ways to Stay Positive During Tough Times from https://theconsciouslife.com/stay-positive-tough-times.htm
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