YOU ARE ENOUGH!
The words are simple enough, but the deeper meaning is often overlooked, dismissed, trivialized, or neglected. Though the words “you are enough” are familiar, if you are anything like me, you may notice them for a moment, maybe think it’s a clever phrase, or even profound, but then you’re off to the next thing. The meaning and relevancy of “you are enough” is quickly forgotten.
It’s HARD to accept the fact that you just might be enough. It is easier to internalize the criticisms, compare yourself with others, constantly push yourself to be the best, or crumble inside thinking you will never be the best. Your perception is that “the best” is always just a little out of reach.
I struggle with “you are enough.” My father was a Methodist minister. Expectations of a PK (preacher’s kid) are always high. Burdensomely so! I just wanted to be a normal, mischievous kid. That didn’t go over too well with my authoritative preacher dad who had high expectations.
I got into the habit of self-criticism and comparing myself to others. Though I was good at a lot of things, I kept beating myself up for all those areas where I came up short. “I’m not thin enough.” “I’m not athletic enough.” “I’m not popular enough.” “I’m just plain not good enough!”
I was so down on myself that I forgot how to celebrate my successes. That doesn’t make any sense, does it? We all have things that we’re good at, and things we aren’t so good at. That’s the way the All-That-Is planned it. If we all were supposed to be rock stars and beauty queen contestants, then there would be no truck drivers, mail carriers, nurses, and cooks. Variety and diversity is what makes our world work. There is someone in every community to fill most every niche.
Though I know that believing “you are enough” is an inside job, I still want to try and save you some of the aggravation that I’ve gone through to embrace what seems like such a simple revelation. Even now there are some days when I get it! Then there are other days when I don’t. Those days when I feel down in the dumps I wonder if I will ever be enough. I’m learning, however, to remind myself of all the things I’m good at, and about the good things I’ve done. That helps me get out of my slump and back into action.
Here are some tips shared by Erin Bahadur that remind me that “I am enough.” Please read and embrace them:
- There is no perfection. Anyone who believes there is, or insists that you should attain that status, is not worth your time. You are enough!
- There is no goal that you could ever achieve that will convince you that you are enough. If you don’t already believe that before you get there, then you still won’t believe it once you do.
- You are an incredible person. I don’t even know you, but I can tell you without a doubt that there is something in you that sets you apart from everyone else. You need to find that thing and embrace it. Nurture it. You are special. You are enough!
- I know that other people’s opinions, external comparisons, and your own negative self-talk may have brought you to a place where you question your self-worth. Some days are worse than others, but realize that on every single day YOU ARE ENOUGH!
- As long as you know you are enough, no one can ever tell you that you’re not.
In the past I exhausted myself trying to be what I thought others, and the world, wanted me to be. We humans are social creatures and of course it’s natural to want to be liked and to belong.
It too me a while to realize, however, that the more that I spoke from the heart, and took the time to nurture the things that make me unique, the more receptive I found the world to be. In fact, I found that being my self requires far less work. This has made it possible to invest more time in developing who I am.
The world wants you to stand up and be YOU because nothing will happen if you don’t. You are enough, and your enough-ness is what makes the world a better place.
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